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Alice’s Garden, Part 2: October 26, 2013   1 comment

I had posted earlier about the first part of the garden, which was suggested my my pastor.  He saw the post on Facebook and thought it was great that I followed through.

We talked a bit about Alice’s Garden at the last church staff meeting and someone mentioned a “Butterfly Bush”.  I’d never heard of that but it sounded interesting.

A week ago today we were at a CD release party for that same pastor’s band (JC Reigns) and one of the staff members had bought me a butterfly bush that very day.  It was still in Joyce’s car so we brought it home.

Tom spent part of the afternoon making a new place for this plant.  Right now, there is one flower on it.

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Here’s Tom planting it, and in its new home next to a gold dust croton.

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And, so I don’t forget…

Want a guaranteed butterfly and hummingbird magnet? Or, one of the most fragrant of shrubs? Plant a buddleia (butterfly bush).

This fast-growing, deciduous shrub with long, arching shoots will reach heights of 6 to 8 feet. Although the green leaves add a welcome bit of color to any landscape, it is the masses of blossoms—long, seductively spiked trusses—that are special.  From summer to autumn, the butterfly bush bears dense panicles, 12 inches or more long, that fill the air with a fruity scent.

At its northern limits, the shrubs can die back, sometimes all the way to the ground. No matter. Butterfly bush is vigorous and undemanding and will send up new shoots, given a sunny location and average garden soil.

Note: Butterfly bush can be an invasive species in some areas; check with your local cooperative extension before planting.

Planting

 

  • Buddleias need full sun and fertile, well-drained soil.
  • Plant in spring or fall.
  • Loosen the soil, mix in compost, and dig a hole twice the diameter of the plant container.
  • When placing the plant in the hole, the top of the rootball should be level with the soil surface
  • Space plants 5 to 10 feet apart, depending on the variety.
  • Water thoroughly.

 

Care

 

  • Water freely when in growth and sparingly otherwise. In the summer, water if rainfall is less than 1 inch per week.
  • Avoid fertilizing butterfly bush; too much fertility supports leaf growth over flower production.
  • Remove spent flower spikes to encourage new shoots and flower buds.
  • Each spring, apply a thin layer of compost and mulch to retain moisture and control weeds.
  • In cold Northern climates, spread mulch up to 6 inches deep around the trunk to nurture it through the winter.
  • Buddleias are very late to break dormancy, so don’t be in a hurry to assess winter damage.
  • The bush should bloom abundantly even in its first year. In warmer climates, the bushes will grow into trees and develop rugged trunks that peel; peeling is normal.
  • In the northern limit of their range, they behave as herbaceous perennials, dying back to the root in cold winters.
  • Since they bloom on new wood, even if there is no die-back, cut them back to the ground every spring. Even where winters are mild enough for the stems to survive, prune severely to stimulate abundant growth on which flowers are borne.

From http://www.almanac.com/plant/butterfly-bush

 

Love you, Alice!

Alice’s Garden: October 14, 2013   2 comments

Soon after Alice died, I went to talk to my pastor.  He suggested that I grow a corner or part of a garden in Alice’s memory.

There is no way I can kneel or get down on the ground to tend to something like this so we decided on a large planter on a rolling platform so it can be wherever the sun is.

This is on the deck, next to my reading chair.

We have had a lot of rain lately – I’m not sure what it’s going to do to the 100 bulbs under the surface, waiting to bloom at different times next spring, summer and fall.

As the seasons change, I hope to be able to share beautiful flowers each week.

 

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Posted October 15, 2013 by MaryO in In Memory

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Dearest’s Bio Page   3 comments

I just posted this on the message board in response to “A Dearest Post I Treasure“.

I just listened to http://www.power-surge.com/bio.htm again, and reread the words.

Dearest was such a special person.  When I first learned that she had died, I went around the website collecting things like the bio page.  I couldn’t save it with the sound for some reason, so I played it and recorded it with my phone so I could listen to her talking whenever I wanted.

That page has some cleanup to do.  The header is a bit off.  I’ll get to it – sometime.

But go and read the words with your speakers turned up.

You’ll be glad you did!

 

Posted October 11, 2013 by MaryO in In Memory, Message Boards

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From MsReadyToExhale   Leave a comment

I too am sorry to learn that we lost Dearest, a true visionary. I too would like to see her work preserved and maintained. I also want to pledge to donate. All I ask is that the means for donating be secure.

This site has helped me through some tough and scary times. The women here are Angels.

Please keep us posted and let us know how we can help.

Thank you for all that you are currently doing to maintain the site.

Peace and love to you Mary and my PS sisters.

Posted October 7, 2013 by MaryO in In Memory

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Comments from the Memorial Book   1 comment

I will add to this as more comments are shared.

A Power-Surge Sister
Sep 5, 2013 11:51 AM
Alice, I want to thank you for everything you did for so many of us. You saved our lives. We love you.

A Power-Surge Sister
Sep 5, 2013 03:09 PM
Alice…Just wanted to Thank You for all you have done for me and for thousands of other women in the world….you and your PowerSurge website saved so many lives….and helped so many women when we were in the deepest, darkest place in our lives…you leave behind a GREAT legacy….and because of you & powersurge…so many woman have come thru to the other side of that long tunnel with a re-newed wisdom in their souls…and thru the site we have made many lifelong friends along the way…GodSpeed My Sister and Chief Bottle Washer

Karen
Oct 5, 2013 07:29 AM
My sincerest condolences to your family. I will be forever grateful for the Power Surge website and you. It helped me cope with an extremely difficult. God bless you Alice.

Wendy
Oct 5, 2013 08:23 AM
I am very saddened to hear of Alice’s passing. Like many women, I don’t know what I would have done without her. Alice not only provided thousands of women help and support through her website, she personally supported me through chats and phone calls. Alice, so many will miss you

PS member
Oct 5, 2013 08:52 AM
I am very sadden to learn of Alice passing. She was such an inspiration for thousands of women and will be missed. Thank you Alice for all the help and support, I would not make it through the passage without Power Surge! My sincerest condolences to your family. RIP Dearest.

Diane Emerson
Oct 5, 2013 09:03 AM
Thank you for your extraordinary effort to help others. What an enormous impact you have had on countless women. Your kindness and compassion is contagious. It is a legacy that will continue to bless. I am eternally grateful for the blessing of Alice Stamm. God bless your family.

bev
Oct 5, 2013 09:28 AM
I am so sad to hear of Alice’s passing. She was a true warrior in the fight for women’s physical and mental health during the middle years. Alice was held in the highest esteem, and she will be missed greatly. Sincerely, Another Power Surge Sister

A P-S Sister in Virginia
Oct 5, 2013 10:15 AM
So very sad to hear of Alice’s passing. She has had a huge helping impact on women all over this world and it will never be forgotten. My prayers to her family.

Lisa Ashton
Oct 5, 2013 10:20 AM
A PS sister from RI.

So sad to hear of Alice’s passing..she gave so much love, support and understanding to what we are all going through…a true angel..

My prayers are with you

PS……Canada
Oct 5, 2013 10:46 AM
Alice, I too like to thank you for all that you have done for all women around the world who went through difficult time. You brought us all together, we shared laughs …cried & learned that PS was a place of comfort & a place for each of us to lean on each other. I have met in person a few beautiful ladies, know that you changed the world & got us all talking. What a Legacy, and I hope you are free of pain & heaven got another angel ❤ Bless you ❤

northcarolinahappy…PS
Oct 5, 2013 05:54 PM
God Bless all of you. Alice was a very special lady. she helped a lot of us and we will be forever grateful and miss her terribly. R.I.P Alice.

Judy
Oct 5, 2013 06:04 PM
Alice helped me in too many ways to mention.I will always remember the compassion she put into helping women everywhere. I do not know what I would have done with out Power Surge. I am so sad to hear of her passing.

Snowy
Oct 6, 2013 10:24 AM
So many are sadden and heartbroken to learn of Alice passing. She was there in our darkest moments to shine a light. The world has indeed lost a one of a kind rare gem! You may be gone Dearest Alice but NEVER will you be forgotten!

Dianne-PS
Oct 7, 2013 06:33 AM
My deepest condolences to Alice’s family. Thank you Dearest Alice for pioneering widespread support for thousands of women everywhere, your generosity and compassion was a gift for us all. You will be missed.

Leticia Jasso tinks
Oct 7, 2013 08:18 AM
Alice your being missed as we speak my condolences to those who now are in pain for your loss may they be comforted in knowing how very much you were loved by all us gals across the globe

Suzanne
Oct 7, 2013 06:07 PM
Alice, thank you for bringing women together during their times of need. Never to be forgotten for your good deeds!
RIP My sincere condolences to your family.

Mary Beth ( Emm Bee)
Oct 7, 2013 07:35 PM
Alice, You taught us how to be strng in the face of the craziness of life changes we couldn’t begin to imagine. You brought us together, you leave a legacy of thousands of sisters….You will never ever be forgotten – the calls, the thursday night open chats, the tears, the laughter the arguments, the healing, the help and mostly, The Love. You are STILL here. I hope somewhere you are somehow knowing how much you are loved. My deepest condolences and sympathy to everyone who loves you. I know I do. I will miss you….. ❤ You taught me so much. ((((( DEAREST)))))

AnxietyAttack ..AA…Sherlock
Oct 8, 2013 04:12 PM
I was so sorry to hear of Alice’s passing…Alice & PowerSurge were a God send to me in my time of need..when I first stumbled upon PowerSurge I found a community of wonderful women…who were all going thru exactly what I was….I no longer felt alone….i no longer felt I was losing my mind…..we all pulled each other thru our darkest hours…and in doing that we all became great friends…Alice and i became friends…I remember those long 4 hrs phone calls …alot of them in the middle of the night LOL…Alice left a legacy that I hope will live on for a long long time…helping the next generation of women going thru this very hard time of life….my sympathies and prayers go out to Alice’s family and friends…her life had a very important purpose…she helped so many people from all over the world…she may have never met them…but she & her vision saved many lives…and we will all be 4 ever grateful to her….GodSpeed My Sister

AnxietyAttack ..AA…Sherlock
Oct 8, 2013 04:12 PM
I was so sorry to hear of Alice’s passing…Alice & PowerSurge were a God send to me in my time of need..when I first stumbled upon PowerSurge I found a community of wonderful women…who were all going thru exactly what I was….I no longer felt alone….i no longer felt I was losing my mind…..we all pulled each other thru our darkest hours…and in doing that we all became great friends…Alice and i became friends…I remember those long 4 hrs phone calls …alot of them in the middle of the night LOL…Alice left a legacy that I hope will live on for a long long time…helping the next generation of women going thru this very hard time of life….my sympathies and prayers go out to Alice’s family and friends…her life had a very important purpose…she helped so many people from all over the world…she may have never met them…but she & her vision saved many lives…and we will all be 4 ever grateful to her….GodSpeed My Sister

AA
Oct 8, 2013 04:13 PM
Alice… see…somethings never change…i still cant work this puter…

PS Sister90
Oct 8, 2013 06:14 PM
My condolences to Alice’s family; if it wasn’t for Alice creating this website I don’t know what I would have done. It gave (and still gives) me great comfort as I go through my difficult menopause journey. Prayers and hugs to your entire family

Carrie Carr
Oct 10, 2013 11:38 PM
I did not know Alice personally, but the PS website literally saved my sanity during one of the worst health-related times of my life. Through it, I was able to meet many women going through or had gone through much of what I had been going through. Those same women are now like sisters to me. They are there for me every second of my life and because of Alice and her dedication to PS, many of our lives will never be the same. For the better. RIP Alice. My deepest condolences to your family and dear friends who love you so much.

Peggy Boyd
Oct 11, 2013 11:13 PM
Just heard the sad news. I am sorry for the family’s loss but we all lost a dear friend at her passing. She will be missed by women the world over. She was a real hero!

Anonymous
Oct 12, 2013 12:25 AM
From New Zealand

I just wanted your family to know Alice how much your work was able to help women like myself around the world.

A Power-Surge Sister
Oct 19, 2013 12:54 PM

So very sorry to hear of the passing of Alice. Thank you so much for what you did for us all with your wonderful website Power Surge. You will never be forgotten. God bless you and RIP.

 

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Posted October 7, 2013 by MaryO in In Memory

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From Tinks   2 comments

I am heart broken I would love for Alice to know that you dont have to go out and climb high mountains, or write important books, or even compose the most beautiful song ever and think this was all so important to do.

What Alice did was save my sanity, she helped me get a gripe on a very bad time in my life and in doing so she touched my family and they got relief by seeing me get better and understand these emotions that come with being a woman and menopause.

She was just one person that followed her heart and had such a passion and love for what she did and she loved so deeply she loved us all as a mother does her children.

I say Dearest was an amazing women that maybe alot of people will never know who Alice was our Dearest Alice was but boy I sure wish I could SHOUT FROM THE ROOF TOPS FROM THE MOUNTAIN TOPS “Dearest thank you for all you are and all you did there are no words to properly thank you”

So as our hearts ache yes its painful but then that beautiful story about that Butterfly says that God so loved her He allowed this little creature to come and give comfort because she is in Heaven and is in His arms in peace and joy and calm from all this earthly hub bub we now have to endure and finish the good fight .

Dearest I didn’t know you personally but you were one of my Dearest friends.

One very brokenhearted little bug named Tinks

Posted October 7, 2013 by MaryO in In Memory

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From Gracie62   Leave a comment

“This site has literally saved my sanity and restored by sense of well-being while in the throes of perimenopause. I can’t imagine life without it as I log in everyday for a dose of comfort from these amazing women.

Dearest was an incredible woman and a pioneer in extending global help and support to millions of women.

Without her, many of us would be alone, afraid and left to face menopause without a clue as to how to get through it. May she rest in peace.”

Posted October 5, 2013 by MaryO in In Memory

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From Wildflowers/Donna   1 comment

Wildflowers on the PS Boards wrote:

PS-logoLong ago my daughter asked me who is Alice in regards to power-surge, I explained Alice in terms of rock and roll stars (something she could relate to at that time..)

 

I said..well…Alice is like Mick Jagger of The Rolling Stones, everyone loves Mick.

I told that story to Alice on the telephone and we laughed and laughed, since then,  when talking to Alice on the phone or chat etc..I’d call her Mick. We both got a kick out of her nickname..Mick.

Daughter then said “You mean, you get to talk to her on the phone, and she chats with you”???,

I said “yep” and she said OMIGOD (she was a teen then..) that is really like talking to the STAR and I said..”sure is”

I told daughter of “Micks” passing and she said “Oh Mom, I now realize (she’s almost 27 now) how much her website and friendship meant to you and how much it helped..”……..

 

 

Posted October 5, 2013 by MaryO in In Memory

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In Memory   1 comment

Please leave your happy memories and condolences in the comments section.

Thanks!

Posted October 5, 2013 by MaryO in In Memory

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Missing You   19 comments

Part of this I wrote already on the About Page:

This site is a labor of love.

My best friend and “sister”, Alice aka Dearest, was the founder of Power Surge – first on America Online, then as a free-standing site for over 20 years. We were best friends for about 18 of those years, talking about every other day for 2-3 hours at a time.

The day of Alice’s funeral, we had a beautiful butterfly just waiting outside the door when I took our dog out.

I have never seen a butterfly like this – no one here in Virginia has seen anything like this either and I never saw it again. It just sat there on the flower pot and “posed” for this picture. I like to think it was Alice saying goodbye to me.

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It’s several weeks later and I’ve been given Power Surge.  I don’t know if I’ll be able to keep it going or not.  Certainly, it will never be as special a place as it was with Alice at the helm.

I look around the house and see things that remind me of Alice.  Gifts, print outs, silly stuff, memories, the entire AOL message boards on floppy disks…

Alice, I love you and will miss you always…

MaryOOneRose

Posted October 5, 2013 by MaryO in In Memory

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