Dearest: Power Surge Is What Friends Are For!   8 comments

Power Surge Is What Friends Are For!

dearestbio2Power Surge, in its 20th year online, is a warm and caring support community for women at midlife and in menopause. Power Surge was created by Alice Lotto Stamm, better known by the online persona, “Dearest,” (a name given her by a friend who installed her first AOL software).

In 1992, Alice found herself on a NYC Bulletin Board trying to describe her first experience with a perimenopausal hot flash — “I’m not having a hot flash. I’m having a POWER SURGE!” It wasn’t long before “power surges” and “hot flashes” became synonymous. Power Surge was formally introduced in February, 1994 on America Online. Finding herself unprepared for all sorts of strange new physical and emotional feelings, and frustrated by the limited information available about menopause, Alice sought out other women with whom to discuss and learn about perimenopause.

“At no other time in a woman’s life does she need as much support as she does now,” says Alice. “Power Surge is a community providing honest and accurate information, and composed of wonderfully caring, sensitive and supportive women. The issues we address are not limited to hot flashes, soy isoflavones, anxiety, estrogen, progesterone, herbs, insomnia, hormones, depression, vitamin E, and the dreaded night/day sweats, but the myriad changes endemic to menopause — how menopause impacts every nuance of our lives. Our families. Our self-esteem. Our work. Our weight. Our relationships. Our emotions. Our sexuality. The entire person. The time finally came for menopause discussions to be taken out of the closet and into the living room for open and intelligent discourse. Good grief, this is the new millennium!”

“We need to dispel the myth that after women go through menopause, they are no longer the desirable, feminine, sexual, and beautiful women they were before. They’re just older, worn from the process, but yearning desperately to get on with their lives. It’s like a tsunami that washes over and through our lives and we wait for the sun to shine once again. Text books tell us menopause is a “rite of passage.” To women who’ve come through Power Surge, it can only be described as a “wrong of passage!” Text books tell us menopause is a “natural” experience. Tell our bodies – they don’t read text books! You will invariably come across those who gloss over menopause as “just another life experience” (it’s usually those who’ve been through a very mild transition). “Snap out of it,” they say. Well, we all know it’s a natural experience, but nothing in our lives ever felt so UNNATURAL as the menopausal years. For many, it’s a living hell. For those women who’ve been fortunate enough to sail through an easy menopause, wonderful. However, for many other women, it’s one of the most — if not THE MOST — grueling, emotionally debilitating, spiritually challenging and physically uncomfortable and erratic 5-15 years of our lives. The first thing perimenopaual women need to remind themselves is that after years of demonstrating to the immediate world that they’re superwomen, it’s okay to shed that costume — to express the fears and confusion they’re feeling. Political correctness is the last thing a menopausal woman needs to be concerned about.

“There are no martyrs in Power Surge. . . just friends.”

“There are no panaceas for menopausal symptoms. Hormone replacement therapy is not a magical answer to all menopause’s issues. It works well for some. It doesn’t work for others. In my 16th year of running this community, I have never endorsed synthetic hormones (Premarin, Provera, et al). I’ve seen many women on synthetic HRT say that although it may have helped their hot flashes and other symptoms, they’re now dealing with migraines, bleeding, elevated blood pressure, breast tenderness, severe bloating and depression. The 50 years of information we were given about synthetic HRT’s benefits have been dispelled. “I wasn’t surprised by the 2002 abrupt halting of the Women’s Health Initiative Study. I’ve been saying everything their results showed since 1993,” says Dearest.

Since creating this community, much new research has been done and many new options are available in the area of natural, bioidentical hormones. Many women experience fewer side effects when bioidentical hormones are used via other delivery systems — transdermal creams, gels, ointments, vaginal creams, sublingual tablets — rather than swallowing a pill. Power Surge provides resources without telling any woman what to use to treat her menopausal issues. We’re here to provide support and information regarding the options available during these transitional years. Heaven knows, with our current managed healthcare system, we often aren’t given the time nor answers from our healthcare providers. We’re looking elsewhere and the Internet has become a valuable resource. Every woman should be able to find a way to relieve the oftentimes severe discomfort associated with perimenopause. Every woman is different. Every woman reacts differently to different methods of treatment. Yes, there may be some side effects from using even bio-identical hormones, but if one’s quality of life has been so severely impacted by perimenopause and other remedies haven’t significantly improved how she feels, she has to do her research and decide what other methods of treatment to try.

Those who won’t or can’t take synthetic hormones have many options from eating a diet rich in foods high in soy isoflavones to naturally compounded, bio-identical hormone therapy. There are herbs and herbal formulas, plus the vitamins and supplements we need for optimal health as we age.

“Power Surge doesn’t recommend one method of treatment over another. The purpose of this “community” is to disseminate accurate information about every method of treatment available, and to encourage discourse by bringing many of the top names in the area of women’s health to participate in Power Surge Live! Guest Chats in the Web site’s chat area. There are guest chats with prestigious experts in the area of women’s health every week, open menopause chats every day, and a very active message board for women to exchange experiences. There’s no shortage of health experts in the Ask The Experts area, as well as tremendous community and support on the Power Surge message boards, plus information via the Educate Your Body Library, the strong

Posted October 3, 2013 by MaryO

8 responses to “Dearest: Power Surge Is What Friends Are For!

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  1. Pingback: Dearest’s Bio Page | Power Surge

  2. Can you please add me

  3. Would love to join Power Surge. Having trouble finding where to click to join the chat and boards. Needing help! Having a hard time! Many thanks!

  4. Please add me to Power Surge! Thank you!

  5. I am apparently in perimenopaus,.. I am really tired of all the itching and sleeplessness. I am even on sleeping pills and only sleep a couple hours a night which is starting to effect my mental state. Does anyone have any ideas what to do about the itching. Its driving me mad..

  6. HELP
    I forget important things
    Feel depressed
    My skin itches like i have hives

  7. I am on the other side of menopause but just recently I have been experiencing hot flashes flushing and the fast heart rate it feels just like my old hot flashes flushing in my extremities is this possible?

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