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The day of Alice’s funeral September 4, 2013, we had a beautiful butterfly just waiting outside the front door when I took our dog out.
I have never seen a butterfly like this – no one here in Virginia has seen anything like this either and I never saw it again. It just sat there on the flower pot and “posed” for this picture. I like to think it was Alice saying goodbye to me.

So here it is, 4 years later. Another anniversary of Alice’s funeral.
I took my mom to Walmart. When I got back, I was counting the items to put in the freezer. I counted 5 but knew I bought 6. I counted again. Still 5.
I went back out to the car to see if it had fallen under the seat. Nope.
When I was coming back in, there was Alice’s butterfly again. It was flitting about and I couldn’t get an image this time but the message was clear to me.
When I got in, I checked the receipt – I did buy 6. Back to the freezer and there were 6 frozen dinners.
Thank you again for the butterfly message. It made me sad but also hopeful for the future.
Alice, I love you and will miss you always…

I had posted earlier about the first part of the garden, which was suggested my my pastor. He saw the post on Facebook and thought it was great that I followed through.
We talked a bit about Alice’s Garden at the last church staff meeting and someone mentioned a “Butterfly Bush”. I’d never heard of that but it sounded interesting.
A week ago today we were at a CD release party for that same pastor’s band (JC Reigns) and one of the staff members had bought me a butterfly bush that very day. It was still in Joyce’s car so we brought it home.
Tom spent part of the afternoon making a new place for this plant. Right now, there is one flower on it.

Here’s Tom planting it, and in its new home next to a gold dust croton.

And, so I don’t forget…
Want a guaranteed butterfly and hummingbird magnet? Or, one of the most fragrant of shrubs? Plant a buddleia (butterfly bush).
This fast-growing, deciduous shrub with long, arching shoots will reach heights of 6 to 8 feet. Although the green leaves add a welcome bit of color to any landscape, it is the masses of blossoms—long, seductively spiked trusses—that are special. From summer to autumn, the butterfly bush bears dense panicles, 12 inches or more long, that fill the air with a fruity scent.
At its northern limits, the shrubs can die back, sometimes all the way to the ground. No matter. Butterfly bush is vigorous and undemanding and will send up new shoots, given a sunny location and average garden soil.
Note: Butterfly bush can be an invasive species in some areas; check with your local cooperative extension before planting.
Planting
- Buddleias need full sun and fertile, well-drained soil.
- Plant in spring or fall.
- Loosen the soil, mix in compost, and dig a hole twice the diameter of the plant container.
- When placing the plant in the hole, the top of the rootball should be level with the soil surface
- Space plants 5 to 10 feet apart, depending on the variety.
- Water thoroughly.
Care
- Water freely when in growth and sparingly otherwise. In the summer, water if rainfall is less than 1 inch per week.
- Avoid fertilizing butterfly bush; too much fertility supports leaf growth over flower production.
- Remove spent flower spikes to encourage new shoots and flower buds.
- Each spring, apply a thin layer of compost and mulch to retain moisture and control weeds.
- In cold Northern climates, spread mulch up to 6 inches deep around the trunk to nurture it through the winter.
- Buddleias are very late to break dormancy, so don’t be in a hurry to assess winter damage.
- The bush should bloom abundantly even in its first year. In warmer climates, the bushes will grow into trees and develop rugged trunks that peel; peeling is normal.
- In the northern limit of their range, they behave as herbaceous perennials, dying back to the root in cold winters.
- Since they bloom on new wood, even if there is no die-back, cut them back to the ground every spring. Even where winters are mild enough for the stems to survive, prune severely to stimulate abundant growth on which flowers are borne.
From http://www.almanac.com/plant/butterfly-bush
Love you, Alice!
Part of this I wrote already on the About Page:
This site is a labor of love.
My best friend and “sister”, Alice aka Dearest, was the founder of Power Surge – first on America Online, then as a free-standing site for over 20 years. We were best friends for about 18 of those years, talking about every other day for 2-3 hours at a time.
The day of Alice’s funeral, we had a beautiful butterfly just waiting outside the door when I took our dog out.
I have never seen a butterfly like this – no one here in Virginia has seen anything like this either and I never saw it again. It just sat there on the flower pot and “posed” for this picture. I like to think it was Alice saying goodbye to me.

It’s several weeks later and I’ve been given Power Surge. I don’t know if I’ll be able to keep it going or not. Certainly, it will never be as special a place as it was with Alice at the helm.
I look around the house and see things that remind me of Alice. Gifts, print outs, silly stuff, memories, the entire AOL message boards on floppy disks…
Alice, I love you and will miss you always…
