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New Pinterest Account for PS!   Leave a comment

In the spirit of keeping Power Surge going with support for women in midlife, I’m adding a set of Pinterest boards.  I’m trying to add things that I think would have been of interest to Alice, as well.

Please follow if you’re on Pinterest and I’ll follow you back!

The message boards are still going strong – find them at

Posted November 15, 2014 by MaryO in Message Boards, Website

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Alice’s Yahrzeit Starts at Sundown Tonight   Leave a comment


In Judaism, there are several occasions each year when the dead are memorialized. The most significant of these is yahrzeit, the anniversary of the death, which is observed according to the Hebrew calendar. Most synagogues keep registries of the Hebrew dates of members’ deaths and send out notices reminding family members of the yahrzeit date.

As is the case in all Jewish holidays, yahrzeit observance begins at night. A 24-hour candle is lit and, as one woman I know says: “The spirit of the dead person fills the room again for 24 hours.” One attends synagogue for the evening, morning, and afternoon services and again recites the Kaddish [the memorial prayer].

One should not go to a celebration or party on the day of yahrzeit, and some people fast on that day.

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English: A lit Yahrtzeit candle, a candle that...

English: A lit Yahrtzeit candle, a candle that is lit on the Hebrew anniversary of a loved one’s death. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

The yahrzeit candle is lit during the week of Shiva (mourning). It is also lit at sundown on the eve of the yahrzeit (anniversary of the death) and at sundown preceding the start of Yom Kippur and at sundown preceding the last day of Succot, Passover and Shavuot.

These holidays all have yizkor (memorial) in synagogue as well.

Rest in peace, Dearest Alice.

Today is the First Anniversary :(   5 comments



It was a year ago today that I learned that Dearest (Alice) had died.

It was especially bittersweet because we came home from vacation through JFK airport a couple days ago.  JFK was the last place I ever saw Alice alive.

This year has been a challenge with me missing my best friend, and the challenges of the site she left behind.

Everywhere in my home, there are gifts and letters/cards she sent, emails I printed out, reminders all over.  I’ll see something on TV and think that Alice and I will have a laugh over that – then I remember all over again.

I miss you so much, Alice! 😦

Posted September 1, 2014 by MaryO in In Memory, Message Boards, Website

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Alice’s Garden, Part 2: October 26, 2013   1 comment

I had posted earlier about the first part of the garden, which was suggested my my pastor.  He saw the post on Facebook and thought it was great that I followed through.

We talked a bit about Alice’s Garden at the last church staff meeting and someone mentioned a “Butterfly Bush”.  I’d never heard of that but it sounded interesting.

A week ago today we were at a CD release party for that same pastor’s band (JC Reigns) and one of the staff members had bought me a butterfly bush that very day.  It was still in Joyce’s car so we brought it home.

Tom spent part of the afternoon making a new place for this plant.  Right now, there is one flower on it.



Here’s Tom planting it, and in its new home next to a gold dust croton.

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And, so I don’t forget…

Want a guaranteed butterfly and hummingbird magnet? Or, one of the most fragrant of shrubs? Plant a buddleia (butterfly bush).

This fast-growing, deciduous shrub with long, arching shoots will reach heights of 6 to 8 feet. Although the green leaves add a welcome bit of color to any landscape, it is the masses of blossoms—long, seductively spiked trusses—that are special.  From summer to autumn, the butterfly bush bears dense panicles, 12 inches or more long, that fill the air with a fruity scent.

At its northern limits, the shrubs can die back, sometimes all the way to the ground. No matter. Butterfly bush is vigorous and undemanding and will send up new shoots, given a sunny location and average garden soil.

Note: Butterfly bush can be an invasive species in some areas; check with your local cooperative extension before planting.



  • Buddleias need full sun and fertile, well-drained soil.
  • Plant in spring or fall.
  • Loosen the soil, mix in compost, and dig a hole twice the diameter of the plant container.
  • When placing the plant in the hole, the top of the rootball should be level with the soil surface
  • Space plants 5 to 10 feet apart, depending on the variety.
  • Water thoroughly.




  • Water freely when in growth and sparingly otherwise. In the summer, water if rainfall is less than 1 inch per week.
  • Avoid fertilizing butterfly bush; too much fertility supports leaf growth over flower production.
  • Remove spent flower spikes to encourage new shoots and flower buds.
  • Each spring, apply a thin layer of compost and mulch to retain moisture and control weeds.
  • In cold Northern climates, spread mulch up to 6 inches deep around the trunk to nurture it through the winter.
  • Buddleias are very late to break dormancy, so don’t be in a hurry to assess winter damage.
  • The bush should bloom abundantly even in its first year. In warmer climates, the bushes will grow into trees and develop rugged trunks that peel; peeling is normal.
  • In the northern limit of their range, they behave as herbaceous perennials, dying back to the root in cold winters.
  • Since they bloom on new wood, even if there is no die-back, cut them back to the ground every spring. Even where winters are mild enough for the stems to survive, prune severely to stimulate abundant growth on which flowers are borne.



Love you, Alice!

Power Surge’s Founder Personally Welcomes You   1 comment

I was going through old email and found this from 2009.  Some of the information is old and some of the links may not work anymore but it’s still a good letter 🙂


dearestbio2This is a one-time mailing to introduce you to and guide you around the award-winning Power Surge  Community for women at Midlife.  You won’t receive masses of E.mail. We all get too much E.mail as it is. In fact, due to all the  spam and anti-spam programs today, the Newsletters have been archived and are available for your convenience.     

I realize this is a long letter, but menopause is a LONG process!  It’s essential to educate yourself about menopause, about the remedies, tips and various methods of treating menopause symptoms to spare you as much discomfort as possible during this stage of life.  I recommend spending 10 minutes of your time reading the information provided in this letter and saving it as a reference.  Having created and maintained this community since 1993, I know it blind-folded, so I’ve provided information and direct links to the most important places first, and then you can explore on your own 🙂   

I’m Alice Lotto Stamm, aka Dearest, founder of Power Surge. It’s important to know the quality and reputation of the site you’re visiting and depending upon for accurate information.

It’s my personal pleasure to welcome you to this community (created on America Online in 1993) for women at midlife and in menopause celebrating its 16th year online —  the only menopause community with such longevity — and as a multi award-winning Web site since 1996. Power Surge contains a wealth of information and resources, and is internationally praised as a powerful support community for women — It is rated the most popular menopause site by‘s, Alexa; a Forbes Magazine“Best of the Web site, Forbes says, “Power Surge is one of the top sites for women looking for support and education during a turning point in their lives, menopause;” has consistently, since 1996, been the #1 and only reviewed menopause site in the Yahoo! directory; is called by Health Magazine,One of the 25 best health sites for women; Prevention Magazine says, “Power Surge is an internet lifesaver;” the April, 2005 issue of Today’s Christian Woman recommends in their “Managing Menopause” article — “For cutting-edge meno-info, visit the leading website,; the Spring, 2004 issue of Living Fit Magazine calls Power Surge “The premier online community/resource for midlife women — a decade on the cutting edge;”  MORE Magazine praises Power Surge as a successful mentor site for women in menopause, Dr. Chris Northrup says, “This site is invaluable.”  Dr. Susan Love, among many other medical luminaries, says, “Power Surge is the first, best and most informative menopause site for women.”  A small sampling of newspaper and magazine articles about Power Surge.

However, the most important praise comes from the *women* (and men) who’ve visited and participated in Power Surge. A Sampling of women’s and men’s testimonials can be read here.

Now… About YOU!

I know you’re concerned about and interested in learning more about menopause and related midlife issues — in what’s happening that’s suddenly turning your life upside down. Yes, menopause is a “natural” experience, but as natural as it may be, it can be sheer misery. Although menopause isn’t an illness to cure, for many women it can be a great deal of discomfort to endure. Menopause sometimes feels as though a woman, one day vibrant, energetic, feeling fine, suddenly finds herself feeling as though she’s physically and emotionally trying to pull herself through the eye of a needle.

Among women in menopause, it’s common to hear things like, “I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I feel worse than I’ve ever felt in my life!” “Am I losing my mind?” — “My body feels like it’s betraying me!” — “How long does this last? — “Am I ever going to feel normal again?” . . . Well, it does end eventually, but it can take quite a few years. Remember, you’ve been having a menstrual cycle for years. It doesn’t go away overnight and for many women, it often it goes out with a ROAR!

Remember, too, that menopause doesn’t happen in a vacuum. Everything in our lives is connected. Whatever we had to cope with physically prior to menopause is frequently exacerbated BY menopause. Whatever emotional issues we had before often feel like they’re pushing us to the edge of our patience, and cause us to wonder if we possess the ability to endure what can be long and tedious transitional years. Equally, whatever relationship problems we had with our spouses/partners/children/parents/co-workers can all become exaggerated, often intolerable while we’re coping with all these changes. For many, menopause can be so overwhelming, they find themselves turning to almost anything for comfort — their spiritual natures becoming more fine tuned than ever. I know it’s difficult not to become disillusioned, but patience is something you must learn in order to get past this experience and move on to the next stage in life.

Because menopause touches so many areas of our lives, in Power Surge we address not only the physical “changes” associated with menopause, but the psychological and spiritual, empty nest syndrome, relationships at midlife, weight gain, intimacy, nutrition, diet and fitness issues and how to cope with our aging parents while we’re being tested to the max. We address the whole nine yards about “getting older.” Believe it or not, many women find themselves going into menopause loathing the idea of losing their period AND getting older, but I can promise you one thing, once you’ve found a method of treatment that helps your symptoms and once you’re over this passage, you’ll welcome becoming  postmenopausal and getting older.

So, pour yourself a cup of relaxing herbal tea (without caffeine) while you click on the blue links that will help you navigate to and around Power Surge. You’ve *finally* found the most supportive community to answer all your questions and unparalleled support to help you through this passage  🙂 And “community” is what it’s all about! You’ll find a list of convenient links at the bottom of this welcome letter.

Navigating the Power Surge Web Site:

Once on the main page of the Web site, you can click on various links on the “Menu” at the top of the page, or throughout the page, OR you can use the handy site map.

Guest Announcements and Monthly Newsletters:

You’re receiving this E.mail because you’ve either registered for the message boards, or signed up for the mailing list directly. If you’re receiving this for some other reason, you can sign up for the mailing list by one of the above two methods to receive weekly announcements of prestigious guest experts who visit Power Surge to answer your questions and the bi-monthly Power Surge newsletter. Your E.Mail address and personal information will be kept private and used only for the Power Surge mailings. Power Surge has a very strict privacy policy.

It’s a BIG Place – WHERE Do I BEGIN?

I recommend starting with What Is Power Surge About? It will give you an idea of the purpose of this community, where you are, where you’re going, and why I created Power Surge back in 1993.

There’s a wealth of information on the Web site, so sometimes it’s difficult to know where to begin. What with hundreds of guest transcripts, informative and motivational articles, newsletters, message boards (see list of links below). Here are a few sample articles from Educate Your Body: There are many, many more articles to read, but these are the best to start with:

  • Menopause Survival Tips
  • A Menopause Primer – What Is Menopause And What Are The Symptoms?
  • What’s A Hot Flash?
  • Selecting A Healthcare Practitioner
  • Naturally Compounded, Bioidentical Hormones
  • Recommendations for Treating Menopause Symptoms
  • Menopause, Libido, Vaginal Dryness/Relationship
  • About Your Hormones
  • Hair Loss And Thinning
  • Tips For Menopause-Related Dry Skin
  • The Signs of Menopause:Tests To Ask For
  • Phytoestrogens, An Exciting Alternative
  • Sleep Disorders / Insomnia During Menopause

Many women are more confused than ever since the most current controversy surrounding synthetic HRT (hormone replacement therapy), such as Premarin and Provera (Prempro), so you may want to begin with this information I’ve compiled regarding the important issue of the HRT Controversy. Power Surge has *never* endorsed synthetic hormones, but only bio-identical, natural, plant-derived hormones for women desiring to use hormone supplementation. Everything Power Surge has been concerned about regarding the synthetics was brought to light with the abrupt halting of the (WHI) Women’s Health Initiative Study in 2002.

A wealth of information can be found in the Recommendations area;  Educate Your Body Library, the Newsworthy Articles;  Guest Transcripts; Resources; Newsletters and on the very active and supportive Web site Message Boards. You’ll find all these links at the bottom of this E.mail.


A very popular area is the Recommendations page, replete with various methods of treatments for your particular menopause issues — soy isoflavones, herbs, vitamins, minerals, amino acids, anti-oxidants, naturally compounded, bioidentical hormones and numerous other suggestions can be found on this comprehensive list. Don’t be overwhelmed!No one is expected to use everything in the recommendations area. and Being The Best You area. You select what you need to deal with your personal issues. Every woman is different. You discover what works best for your symptoms. Everything you’ll find recommendations page is natural. Power Surge recommends nothing without first trying it. As most women will soon find out, finding the right method of treatment involves trial and error. Sometimes, in severe cases, there may be times when certain medications may become necessary to get you “over the hump” of the depression and/or anxiety often associated with menopause.

Message Boards

There is no shortage of Power Surge message boards where you’ll find support on every imaginable subject and camaraderie with other women going through similar experiences. The Web site message boards have been rated by Forbes Magazine as the “Best of the Web Menopause Boards.” Women can network 24/7 to read, post and engage in real-time chat with other women in menopause in the Insta-Chat. The subjects cover a host of subjects. Registration is required to participate in the Power Surge Message Boards for the purpose of keeping out multi-level marketing people whose only purpose is to clutter the boards with advertisements. The boards are a haven for friendship, information and support.


Power Surge is the only menopause site that for 14 years has had regular guest chats in the area of menopause, women’s health and midlife-related issues. Every Thursday night, I host guest chats at 9:15 PM, ET in the Power Surge chat room where YOU have the opportunity to interact with medical luminaries and women’s health experts you wouldn’t likely have the opportunity to chat with about your menopause issues. Power Surge also gives away free books and/or gifts at the guest chats. For information about the guest chats, click here for the guest schedule. The Web chat and Insta-Chat chat on the message board are open 24/7, 365 days a year. Use them whenever you wish.

Transcripts of Guest Chats and Newsletters

There are hundreds of wonderfully informative transcripts of hundreds of prominent guest experts who’ve appeared in Power Surge’s guest chats, a very small sampling of whom are: Dr. Robert Atkins, Dr. Susan Love, Dr. Christiane Northrup, Dr. Isadore Rosenfeld, Dr. Bob Arnot, Dr. John Lee, Dr. Susan Rako (The Hormone of Desire), Dr. Elizabeth Vliet (Screaming To Be Heard); Dr. Pamela Peeke; Authors, Gail Sheehy (The Silent Passage), Rona Jaffe, Nancy Friday, Lonnie Barbach (The Pause), Health Educators, Judith Sachs, Nutritionist, Ann Louse Gittleman, Linda Ojeda; Fitness gurus, Denise Austin, Kathy Smith; Actress, Linda Dano; Relationship Experts, Steven Carter (Men Who Can’t Love), Barbara De Angelis and hundreds more! They can be found in the Transcript Library . Next to each guest’s name is their area of expertise. You might even find it easier going through the Guest Schedule which includes short bios of guests since 2000 and links to their transcripts. For comprehensive newsletters, articles, FAQ’s, resources of relevance to women in menopause, visit the Power Surge Reading Room

Ask The Experts

A very popular area on the Web site is Ask The Power Surge Experts. Power Surge is renowned for the experts with which it associates because… We Believe Only In The *Best*

OB-GYN, Ask Gynecologist, Phillip Warner, M.D. an OB-GYN with years of experience, whose area of expertise is women, menopause and who does not believe in synthetic hormones. Dr. Warner has spoken out for years against Premarin and Prempro, the synthetic estrogen and estrogen/progestin combo derived from horse urine.

Psychiatrist and Neurologist, Anxiety, panic , depression and stress-related medical conditions doctor, Ask Stuart Shipko, M.D., a board-certified Psychiatrist and Neurologist, founder of The Panic Disorders Institute and author who has treated more than 2500 patients with panic attacks/disorder and whose practice focuses on anxiety, panic, depression and stress-related medical conditions.

Intimacy expert, Ask Dr. Sandy Scantling — a clinical psychologist and author whose practice focuses on intimacy and sexuality problems which frequently occur during the transitional years.

Weight Issues expert, Ask Dr. Denise Lamothe — a clinical psychologist who’s area of expertise is eating disorders. Dr. Lamothe is the author of the book, The Taming Of The Chew.

Before posting a question to our experts, I suggest you check each expert’s area’s archived answers, plus there’s a search in each expert’s area if you’re looking for specific information.

Books For Women At Midlife and in Menopause

A comprehensive list of recommended books can be found in the Power Surge Bookstore. The list can be a bit overwhelming to newcomers, so here’s Power Surge’s list of favorite menopause books. New books are always being added.

Site-wide Search

The Web-site search engine contains a very comprehensive search feature where you can not only search the entire Web site, but individual areas, such as the guest transcripts, newsletters, articles sections and the individual experts in the “ask the experts” areas. A handy “tip” I’ve learned from years of using search engines is to locate exactly what I’m looking for when there’s more than one word, such as “hot flashes,” to put the phrase inside “quotation marks.” This works well with all search engines as well.

Contact Us

If you need any help, feel free to: Contact the Power Surge Team. Please make certain you select the right contact person.

Important About Your Privacy & E.mail:

Because there is so much spam mail these days, Power Surge chooses to protect your privacy by sending its mailings BCC (blind carbon copies). In this way, others on the list can’t see your address. We have no way of knowing if someone who has subscribed to our mailing list is looking to harvest E.mail addresses for marketing their products or selling addresses and bombarding you with E.mail. However, because our mailings are sent BCC, many ISP’s (Internet Service Providers), may interpret it as “spam” mail and may drop Power Surge mail into a “spam” or “junk” mail folder even though it’s something to which you’ve subscribed. Therefore, you may want to check your spam/junk mail folders for Power Surge newsletters. If you don’t receive our weekly mailings, you might try contacting your ISP to find out why you’re not receiving it.

AOL User E.mail Information:

In AOL versions 8.0 and 9.0, AOL is providing anti-spam features, where it allows you to configure E.mail you wish to receive. If you wish to receive the Power Surge mailings, it will be necessary to add to the mail you accept, or it will be treated as spam and you may never see it.

Convenient Links

Power Surge has many areas. Here are some convenient links to help you navigate Power Surge and find all the information you’re seeking:

Power Surge has many areas. Here are some convenient links to help you navigate Power Surge and find all the information you’re seeking:

  • Stop By And Meet Dearest
  • Power Surge Recommendations
  • Web site Message Boards & Insta-chat
  • Ask The Experts
  • Power Surge Live! Web Chat
  • Guest Schedule
  • Guest Chat Transcripts
  • Educate Your Body
  • Resources, Newsletters, FAQ’s
  • Newsworthy Articles
  • Power Surge In The News
  • Being The Best You!
  • Your Feedback
  • The Poll Vault
  • Testimonials
  • Recommended Reading
  • Women’s Midlife Greetings
  • he Women of Power Surge
  • The Male Point of View
  • Sign up for the mailing list
  • Unsubscribe from mailing list
  • Contact the Power Surge Team
  • Site Map

(You can unsubscribe from the mailing list at the bottom of
the newsletters you receive by clicking on “Manage Your Subscription”

I can’t tell you how pleased I am that you’ve found Power Surge. I know you will garner excellent information, strength and support from this multi award-winning community, plus make wonderful friends with other women going through the same transition.

We’ve been here for 15 years helping to empower women to take charge of their bodies. So, as we sojourn through this transition, some of us in our own little cocoons, remember — “If nothing ever changed, there’d be no butterflies.”  🙂

Power Surge

In Our 16th Year informing & supporting women through menopause!

Alice Stamm
(aka Dearest / PowerSurgeWoman)
The Power Surge Community For Women
At Midlife And In Menopause
Celebrating Our 16th Year Online
Founder, Facilitator

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* PREVENTION Magazine: “Power Surge is an
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* SUSAN LOVE, M.D.: “Power Surge is the first, the
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* CBS Healthwatch: “Power Surge has had a
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health of women”
* MORE Magazine praises Power Surge as a
“Valuable Menopause Mentor” in its April, 2003 issue
* CHICAGO TRIBUNE: “If your mom’s not around to offer
advice on hot flashes as you enter menopause, head for
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Alice’s Garden: October 14, 2013   2 comments

Soon after Alice died, I went to talk to my pastor.  He suggested that I grow a corner or part of a garden in Alice’s memory.

There is no way I can kneel or get down on the ground to tend to something like this so we decided on a large planter on a rolling platform so it can be wherever the sun is.

This is on the deck, next to my reading chair.

We have had a lot of rain lately – I’m not sure what it’s going to do to the 100 bulbs under the surface, waiting to bloom at different times next spring, summer and fall.

As the seasons change, I hope to be able to share beautiful flowers each week.




Posted October 15, 2013 by MaryO in In Memory

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Menopause and a Natural Approach to Bone Health   Leave a comment

From Power Surge, written by Dearest

Bone health is a primary concern for women as they advance in age. Bone is a dynamic, living tissue subject to breakdown, repair, and rebuilding, like any other tissue in the body. Bone loss occurs when the rate of bone dissolution exceeds that of bone formation. Women actually achieve maximal bone density by their mid-thirties. In fact, skeletal bone mass naturally starts to decrease after about age 40, so it is never too early to address bone health. In addition, research has shown that it is never too late to begin preventative steps against excessive bone loss.

For many women and their health care providers, concern about bone loss is one of the main arguments for supplementing with estrogen. Estrogen replacement, however, brings with it its own concerns, and is only part of the story when it comes to bone health. Estrogen can inhibit the cells whose job it is to break bone down. This means estrogen slows down the rate of bone loss, but it will not build new bone. Testosterone and progesterone, however, appear to stimulate the cells that build bone, thereby possibly stimulating bone growth.

Hormones play a pivotal role in the process of remodeling bone, but several vitamins and minerals are indispensable for optimal bone health as well. The formation of healthy bone has two fundamental aspects: First to increase bone mass, and second to create a healthy infrastructure (known as the bone matrix) around which bone can form. Supplementing with key nutrients, along with a balanced diet and exercise program, are integral to any regime for promoting the health of your bones.

The proper nutrition for bone health goes beyond simply supplementing with calcium. Calcium deficiency may only contribute to 25% of all incidences of heightened bone loss. The form of calcium used is also important. Studies to determine the recommended daily intake of 1200-1500 mg for menopausal women used calcium carbonate. Calcium carbonate is a form of calcium our bodies may find difficult to absorb, particularly in an environment that is low in stomach acid. In addition, this recommendation includes calcium derived from dietary sources. Most women eating a standard American diet get about 700 mg of calcium from food intake. Calcium as an amino acid chelate is currently the most absorbable form of calcium available. As we age, we tend toward hypochlorhydria (low stomach acid). Calcium amino acid chelate does not require an acidic environment for absorption, but it is a good idea to supplement with a bone health formula that includes hydrochloric acid, as it can aid in the absorption of calcium and other nutrients from the diet.

Magnesium is important for the formation of a functional bone matrix. In addition, magnesium converts vitamin D to its active form, D3. This is imperative for calcium absorption. Many women with poor bone health may be deficient in the active form of vitamin D. Menopausal women in general tend also to be deficient in magnesium. Folic acid and vitamin B6 (pyridoxine) together perform a vital role in engendering the health of bone tissue. They help the body metabolize and excrete a substance known as homocysteine. High homocysteine levels are associated with defective bone formation (and, incidentally, with cardiovascular disease). Interestingly enough, menopausal women show an impaired ability to metabolize and excrete homocysteine. Furthermore, they tend as a group to be low in folic acid and vitamin B6.

Manganese, silicon, and vitamin K are all necessary for the construction of the bone matrix around which bone mineralization occurs. Vitamin K is another nutrient that is found to be low in individuals with significant bone loss. Too much vitamin K can potentially interfere with blood clotting, so it is important not to exceed approximately 200 micrograms a day of this nutrient.

Zinc and copper are also important minerals for bone health that tend to be low in menopausal women. Both minerals enhance the effectiveness of vitamin D, which promotes the absorption of calcium. Zinc and copper must be supplemented in the appropriate ratio, as imbalances may affect the proper formation of bone. Supplementation with the micronutrient boron has been shown to reduce calcium loss in post-menopausal women. Vitamin C is well known for its role in immune support, but it is also a crucial nutrient that the body needs to build bone matrix and healthy connective tissue. Vitamin C deficiencies are widespread, even with those ingesting the full RDA.

Increasing evidence points to a link between soy intake and bone health. Most of the studies that suggest dietary soy intake is associated with a decrease in the rate of bone loss are either epidemiological or based on an animal model. The amount of soy actually required for this positive effect on bone health is still undetermined. One important study that was conducted on postmenopausal women concluded the amount of isoflavones (the phytoestrogenic component of soy) needed to slow down the rate of bone loss is between 55 and 90 mg/day for at least 6 months.

Ipriflavone is a synthetic isoflavone derivative. Ipriflavone has been shown to inhibit the rate of bone loss and promote bone formation in postmenopausal women, particularly in the spine and wrist. As noted, there are many key nutrients vital for the health of our bones. A comprehensive program that encompasses proper diet, nutritional supplementation, and exercise may prove to be invaluable in preventing or minimizing bone loss.

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By Power-Surge contributor:
Dr. Holly Zapf

Power Surge’s Menopause Survival Tips   Leave a comment

by Dearest

Women “pausing” in Power Surge often ask one another what remedies they’ve used to address their menopausal issues. I had the good fortune to be made aware of nutrition early on in life by my dearest friend and savvy mother, Anne, who went through a difficult menopause and prepared me for what to expect. The general consensus is that your menopause is likely to be similar to your mother’s menopausal experience.

I was astonished when she told me that she had menopause-related high cholesterol of 400, which she lowered only with soy lecithin — 40+ years ago. She’s 95 today. That’s when I started researching ways of naturally lowering cholesterol and exploring the many benefits of soy protein and isoflavones.

Realisitcally, like you, I do not live on vitamins alone. I don’t buy organic foods. I eat the wrong things more often than I should, and oftentimes the joints ache too much to exercise. Do the best you can because nobody can help YOU through this transition as much as yourself!

Read, educate yourself, ask questions and learn tips that will help you “survive” this transition of life.

Time-Tested TIPS from Power Surge. You’ll find specific remedies in the recommendations area.

Menopause is a time fraught with physical, hormotional and spiritual changes.

For those concerned with weight loss, perimenopause is hardly the time for strict dieting. You have enough on your plate already (no pun intended). It’s enough to cope with the extreme hormonal upheavals. However, one can and should try to observe the best eating and exercise habits because they can be extremely helpful during peri and postmenopause, and can help to eliminate many of the problems you experience and form the foundation for a healthy future. It’s wise to begin a mild strength-training program to prevent muscle and bone degeneration later in life.

Did you know that exercise is one of the most effective measures in lowering cholesterol? Lowering your LDL (the ‘bad’ cholesterol) and raising your HDL (the ‘good’ cholesterol) AND lowering your triglycerides, too!

Did you also know that a few minutes of exercise can stop a panic attack dead in its tracks? Reduce anxiety? Decrease and even eliminate depression? Exercise does more than boost your mood and energy level, it also has a long-lasting calming effect. You don’t need elaborate equipment or gyms. The best equipment you have is your own body. Studies show that people feel less anxious while they are exercising and then for the next several hours. You don’t need to do an hour of heavy aerobics. A review of dozens of studies determined that you need to exercise for only 20 minutes for this natural tranquilizer to kick in. It’s a known fact that the best exercise is walking — even a twenty minute walk a day. The important thing is “consistency.” So, if you do 20 minutes of exercise even three times a week, it can be instrumental in establishing optimal health and, yes, lessening the severity of menopausal symptoms.

Brown Bagging It! Increased anxiety, hyperventilating and even panic attacks are common complaints during the perimenopausal years. You’ll find numerous suggestions all over the site about how to handle anxiety/panic. Sure, there are herbs, vitamins, tranquilizers, antidepressants and the exercise mentioned above. However, Power Surge also recommends brown bagging it, especially in emergency situations. You ask, “What is brown bagging it?”

Get yourself a small paper bag. Squish (yes, squish) the top together as though you were going to POP IT! Take the gathered top part of the bag and place it tightly over your nose and mouth, preventing outside air from getting in. Now, inhale deeply! When you feel you can’t inhale anymore, inhale just a little… bit … more. Next, slowly… exhale … and when you feel there’s no breath left … exhale just a little … bit … more. Do this for no longer than 30 seconds and see how you feel. Should you feel light-headed, don’t continue. However, most people have no problems and can do this exercise for one minute. The idea behind this is that by breathing into the paper bag, you’re inhaling carbon dioxide, which serves as a relaxant to your body’s organs, rather than oxygen which acts as a stimulant. Therefore, this exercise can be excellent for palpitations, anxiety, hyperventilation and general stress. Carry a brown bag in your purse. Stick one in your car’s glove compartment. You’ll be amazed at how simple and effective this procedure is!

Speaking of palpitations, should they hit, try taking 500 mg. of magnesium. They say, “If it spasms, give it magnesium.” The same holds true for migraines. If you feel a migraine coming on, try 500 mg. magnesium. You’ll find more info about magnesium on the Recommendations page.

Take one aspirin tablet per day (325 mg., 1/2 a regular adult dose) as a natural anti-coagulant. Antiplatelet therapy reduces the risk of any serious vascular event by about one quarter; risk of non-fatal heart attack by one third, non-fatal stroke by one quarter, and vascular death by one sixth. If heart attack (or stroke) symptoms occur, take one aspirin immediately as its anti-coagulant effects can mean the difference between life and death.

Become more aware of nutrition — what you put into your body. The types of oils you use in cooking, the way you prepare your foods. Canola, Sunflower, Safflower and Olive oils are the best. Sunflower oil actually serves as a cleanser of your arteries to remove plaque and prevent more plaque from forming. Certain fats are good for your body, while others are bad.. As you are aging your skin, hair and nails are likely to become drier and more brittle and lose their natural oils. Moisturize your skin and deep-condition your hair. And eat lots of fruit and fiber.

Avoid processed foods, nicotine, caffeine, artificial sweetners and “junk” food. These are no-no’s for menopausal women. Try to cut down or, better yet, stop drinking carbonated drinks, especially diet sodas – and more especially, those made with aspertame (Nutrasweet). The carbonation can cause bloating. I can’t even begin to tell you what sort of side effects you can experience from aspertame and so many low-calorie foods are made with it. It wouldn’t surprise me if you stopped using aspertame and some of the symptoms you attributed to menopause disappeared.

Keep a journal. Journalling can be extremely useful. A suggestion — when you have a hot flash, mood swing, palpitations, bout of binge eating, sudden elevated anxiety, panic attack, or any number of repetitive behavioral problems, take a pen and paper (or treat yourself to an actual journal) and write down:

  1. What you were doing
  2. What you were thinking
  3. What you were feeling
  4. With whom you were interacting
  5. What they said to you
  6. What you ate just prior to the onset of the problem

… and anything else you can think of that might be useful in identifying your triggers.

By keeping a running journal of the ‘changes’ you experience, you’ll be able to identify those circumstances, foods, people, thoughts, activities that may have triggered the physical and emotional changes. Through examination, you can see if there’s a pattern to the emotional UPS and downs, you can utilize the process of elimination in pinpointing the cause of the problem! You can keep your own menopause blog/journal, a free feature when you sign up for the Power Surge Message Board.

Dress in thin layers. When a hot flash hits, you can peel off the top layer (without getting arrested) and wear cotton as it is the most absorbent and cool of all fibers.

Additional suggestions:

  • Drink a glass of cold water or juice at the onset of a flash
  • At night, keep a carafe or thermos of ice water or an ice pack alongside your bed
  • Use cotton sheets, sleeping garments, lingerie, and clothing to let your skin “breathe”

Believe it or not, one of the quickest remedies for hot flashes and sweats is in your own refrigerator. Open the freezer and pull out a bag of frozen vegetables. Place it on your face, neck, inner arms and wrists. It’s refreshing and often can thwart a hot flash instantly. When unanticipated hot flashes or sweats hit, especially while travelling, a handy item to have is a mini portable personal fan. I’ve kept one in my glove compartment since I started perimenopause. It’s inexpensive and effective. Remember, this isn’t a taboo subject any longer. There’s no need to be embarrassed. It’s a natural occurrence. So, use your frozen veggies, or whip out your hand fan and, uncomfortable as it may be, try to find the humor in it. Everyone else will, too.

Eat lots of garlic!. Garlic is excellent for blood pressure and cholesterol. You can also take garlic in in a gel tablet – odorless, too. Also, eat lots of broccoli. It’s loaded with phytochemicals, vitamins and contains the highest amount of antioxidants than any other vegetable. Stacked with protective compounds , such as isothiocyanates and sulforaphane, as well as indole-3-carbinol (I3C), a substance that is said to have anticancer actions, broccoli tops the list of ‘must serves’. The entire Brassica family of vegetables, (which includes Brussels sprouts, cauliflower, cabbage, Chinese cabbage, bok choy, kale and collard greens), contains a compound that activates certain enzymes in the human body to protect cells from genetic damage.

Try adding cinnamon and ground flaxseed to your morning oatmeal. It’s been discovered that cinnamon is very effective in lowering hyptertension. Ground flaxseed blends nicely with oatmeal and is one of the most important things you should take. Flax is good for your heart, for maintaining healthy cholesterol and triglyceride levels, one of the “good fats” our bodies need, has anti-carcinogenic properties to protect us from various forms of cancer. Flaxseed is an excellent source of fiber and especially Omega 3 Fatty Acids. A 2 tablespoon serving provides 2400 mg of Omega 3. Read more about flaxseed.

When our estrogen levels dip, our cholesterol levels often become elevated. It’s not something to be alarmed about, but it is something to take action to treat. Your health care practitioner may immediately suggest going on statins, such as Lipitor, Zocor, etc., to lower your cholesterol. Remember, this is probably a temporary condition and there are many ways to lower cholesterol naturally before resorting to prescription drugs — especially getting involved in a regular exercise programl. See Power Surge’s Recommendations.

Avoid fried, rich, spicy foods and too much sugar. As we go through the menopause transition, women are more likely to develop heartburn, acid reflux, gallstones, so avoid spicy and fatty foods.

You know how we suddenly develop cravings for chocolate? They’ve said that chocolate is the “feel good” food – probably raising seratonin levels. However, while it may make us feel good for a short while, chocolate and all sweets can bring on hot flashes, raise insulin levels, cause palpitations, anxiety and even depression in some, so while everyone’s exalting chocolate to the sky, remember it’s not good for every peri and postmenopausal woman.

Avoid toxic situations and people! Menopause can be likened to Murphy’s Law — whenever anything can go wrong, it does! Our patience is tested to the max while we’re coping with all these changes. It seems all our demons, every unresolved issue of our life, hits us right between the eyes during perimenopause. We each know at least one someone who pushes all our wrong buttons. If you know certain situations or people are invariably going to cause you grief, do everything within your power to avoid them. Avoid inconsequential arguments. Many women who have passed through Power Surge have discussed issues with anxiety and anger — oftentimes, inappropriate anger — even feelings of rage. This isn’t uncommon during perimenopause while our hormones are ebbing and flowing, up and down until we feel like an alien has taken over our body. There are simple things you can use from the breathing exercises above to taking lots of vitamin B, especially inositol, which is known as “nature’s own tranquilizer.” Many women are helped by using St. John’s Wort. It’s not only good for depression, but helps anxiety as well. You’ll find numerous suggestions on the Recommendations page and in the Being The Best You area of the site. There’s also a very helpful article, A surprising new health tip: When you’re angry, let it show. Here’s a helpful article about anxiety.

Let the light in. Turn down the noise. Find a quiet, peaceful place to regroup, or simply to read, to sew, to relax, to be free from all the stresses of the world. Perhaps you can use that time to boot up the computer and share with other women going through the same thing as you! And, DO turn off the news! One of the most contributing factors to high stress levels is watching the local news. Whether you live alone, or with your family, explain that you need some time and space for yourself. If they love you, they’ll understand what you’re going through. Explain that it has nothing to do with them, but that you simply need to tune out some of those things that cause you to feel worse.

The bottom line: LEARN TO P-A-M-P-E-R yourself!

Look at all the “TO DO” lists you’ve accumulated! I recetly printed out just one of my to do lists and ended up with 15 printed pages. You know as well as I that many of the notations on your to do list have been there for weeks, maybe months (maybe years). I could wallpaper my entire house with all the post-its scattered about my computer room/office. IF you must keep appointments organized, put them in your cell phone’s notepad. If you don’t want or can’t afford an expensive cell phone/PDA, you can purchase a less expensive PDA such as the Palm z22 PDA or the Palm Tungsten E2 100.

If you drink alcoholic beverages, do so in moderation (a glass of red wine daily is good for your health). Once I entered perimenopause, I had to stop enjoying my glass of red wine because of the havoc it wreaked on my body. If you smoke, stop, or, at least, cut down to a minimum. You already know why without my telling you.

Alcoholic beverages can contribute to hot flashes and palpitations, plus raise your triglycerides as alcohol is converted to sugar in the body. Sugar and alcohol are two of the worst offenders during perimenopause and elevated triglycerides is one of the greatest contributors to heart disease.

High carbohydrate foods can also cause hot flashes, palpitations, anxiety and depression, plus elevated insulin levels which can exacerbate menopausal symptoms, plus too many carbohydrates can cause weight gain.

For the nausea often associated with perimenopause and PMS, try a cup of boiling water with 2-3 tsp. of lemon juice (from concentrated lemon juice). Sip it slowly and it should work like a charm every time. Ginger is also supposed to be helpful. However, using ginger itself may cause stomach problems. They say to add ginger to food, but really, who wants to eat when they feel nauseous? I would also recommend drinking some warm ginger ale (soda). You can also try peppermint or camomille tea, but not too much (I still prefer plain water and lemon).

Try to keep your sense of humor. I’ve always said in Power Surge, the moment we lose our sense of humor about life in general is the moment that life becomes unmanageable.

If you’re dealing with hair thinning and/or loss, there are some excellent tips in Hair Loss and Thinning at Menopause.

If you’re suffering from dry skin and other midlife and/or menopause-related skin disorders, you’ll find good information and tips in Tips for Midlife Dry Skin. There’s additional information about vaginal dryness here.

It’s really okay after years of playing superwoman to take time for yourself. You’ll be amazed at how well everyone manages to get along without your constant attention. Take time to regroup. Make “quiet time” for yourself. Go for a walk. Learn meditation. Reacquaint yourself with your inner child! She’s yearning to be heard. Find that peaceful place within yourself that so many of us seem to sequester away at some point in our lives, perhaps during times of stress, confusion, fear, frustration and pain — just when we need it. In my moments of anxiety and stress, music has soothed me. I have found peaceful moments with the help of Power Surge friend, Christine Magnussen’s Harp recording, “On Wings Of A Dove.

Of course, medication has its place in treating various conditions — many specifically related to perimenopause and menopause. However, medication isn’t always the answer. Not all, but many of the answers may lie within you and, believe it or not, how you “translate” everything that’s happening in your body. Own your body. It’s within your power.

Read and understand. You want to know more about menopause – visit Educate Your Body. If you’re interested in complex medical abstracts the averge woman doesn’t understand, this is not the place for it. We strive to make information you need about this rite of passage — simple and understable. There are menopause primers all over the site. There’s a list of prestigious experts in the area of menopause and women’s health a mile long, all of whom have appeared in Power Surge to answer your questions. Learn from their wisdom. They all talk in plain language. Glance at all the wonderful praise that’s been bestowed upon Power Surge and you’ll know you’re in a safe and caring place.

Become friends with your body. Listen to the messages it gives you. Your body will instinctively tell you more about what’s going on, especially during peri and postmenopause, than test results –and you can learn how to instinctively respond to it. Remember, if you treat your body well during these transitional years, it will treat you well in return… and long down the road. Own your body!

Be sure to check out the transcript library and other areas of the site for more information on menopause symptoms, methods of treatment, recommendations and Ask The Experts areas. There’s also the comprehensive Power Surge Search Engine to find specific information on any subject you’re looking for.

And, by all means, if you want to commiserate with other women — women who truly understand what you’re going through, the Power Surge Message Board and Insta-chat are best places to find them!

Other good “starter” articles are,

Testimonials   Leave a comment

From the original Testimonials page at

From something I posted fairly far down the list, it seems that these might have been compiled around 2003.

I hope to add more to this from the currant message boards.


“This is what it’s *really* all about!” — Dearest

AimeeDecorates: “There is nothing out there that comes “close” to this site!”

Psychotherapist, Author, Mira Kirshenbaum: “The three greatest needs women have are for support, understanding, and a way to break through their sense of isolation. It’s because of the amazing way she meets these needs that Alice Stamm (Dearest) and her site are so wonderful. She makes you feel that you have come home to the best friend/sister/mother you can imagine. Every time I’ve visited with the Power-Surge community I’ve experienced this warmth and connection. This is a must-view site for women!” Mira Kirshenbaum, author of, Everything Happens For A Reason: Finding The True Meaning of the Events of Our Lives. 

newjourneys: “Dearest, there are really no adequate words to express what your heartfelt efforts mean to this perimenopausal women with regard to this website. About year I came here as a last resort when things were really bleak and have continued to keep in touch sporadically. Just knowing this place exists, with its warm, caring community of women has and DOES make a world of difference – and honestly, on more than one occasion has literally saved my life. I am the only woman of my generation and information about women’s lives and physical changes has been at times very challenging to obtain. Plus, you took the time to personally respond to a prayer request. Everything did come out ok – all the tests clear – and my feedback to you about this site, dear woman, is THANK YOU from the very depths of my heart. Many times I’ve passed the URL on to other women, especially younger women coming up so that they too, can know there is a safe place to go. I wish you all the Blessings in the world.


Author, Former Olympic Gold Medal Winner, Dick Roth: Author of No, It’s Not Hot In Here: A Husband’s Guide To Understanding Menopause.

On Power Surge: “This is a menopause support network on the Internet. This site rocks. Check it out. It has everything you ever wanted to know about menopause – with music, too. Unlike a lot of Web sites, this one feels friendly.”

Dick Roth

MaryO: “I’ve been hanging around Power Surge for several years (9), first as a lurker, then gradually posting more and more.

Power Surge has literally changed my life. It has comforted me in the darkest, scariest moments when my husband was close to dying. I would come home from the hospital and read PS messages. No matter what the time of day was, I could always read and see that things were ok with the world, and know that we were going to survive this.

Power Surge has helped me get braver in real life. By learning to “talk” in chat rooms I was able to branch out, little by little and talk to others, too. I learned about R here and that has done wonders for me. It enabled me to get off the HRT I was terrified of taking, and to feel better in so many ways. I found out that I was not alone with so many of my problems. I’d always assumed that I was the only one who felt thus and so, and I found out that others who appeared to be so much more together than I, actually shared some of those same fears. I have made the best friends I have ever had right here in Power Surge.

Thank you, again, always, for creating this haven for us, Dearest. You have been a miracle in my life, and I’m sure in many others, as well.

Power Surge seems to have it all – it always does, but then you turn around and add something else. I don’t know where you come up with all these wonderful ideas, and guests for the chats, but I’m so happy that you do.

Thank you, from the bottom of my heart!”

milatova: “Dearest, I would like to take the time to thank you for this site. I feel SO much better finding a community of women, like this. I’m still not convinced that I’m not going at least a little bit crazy, but at least I’m not the only one. I’ve also realized a lot about myself — through these threads and through the women on them — that I hadn’t realized before. It’s a much needed eye-opener — and I’ve had my eyes closed for too long.

Thank you for that! You are truly a Revolutionary Woman!!!

Psychiatrist, Author, Susan Rako, MD: “Power Surge and its founder, Dearest, provide a unique service to women in our prime — compassionate company and intelligent, responsible information — and I am honored to be a part of the network of guests.” Susan Rako, author of, The Hormone of Desire: The Truth About Testosterone, Sexuality, and Menopause. 

Ross: “Dearest, Several months ago I was attempting to “discover and help” my wife in her mood swings, loss of libido, flashes, etc. After reading through and downloading over 350 messages concerning perimenopause, I feel I have gained valuble insight and understanding not only for my wife, but all the “surgettes” out there. Anyway, ever since my research, I have recieved email from you dear heart concerning the power surges chats and such. Although my best friend finds this one of the funniest things he’s seen in years (me being refered to as a “surgette”) I just wanted you to know that “This” man is very appreciative for all you have done for not only the ladies out there dealing with this issue, but the men out here who desire to learn and become more understanding about what our soulmates must endure.

Warm hugs to you Dearest.
Russ (a man) Johnson

Brenda Russell: I am 41 years old, and at the ripe ‘young’ age of 39, started to experience odd changes in my body. Insomnia, headaches, anxiety, and many other strange and unusual symptoms. I lost touch with reality, and thought for sure I was dying of some dreadful, deadly disease. After visiting several medical professionals, and spending endless hours having endless, unnecessary tests that always came back negative (MRI of head/neck, ANA panels, Stomach tests, numerous blood tests, ultra-sounds, CT Scans, Neurological exams, numerous heart tests) I took myself to the internet in search of answers. I was close to the breaking point, and feared for my sanity.

I found my answers. On a Website called I found a woman by the name of Alice Stamm, who calls herself “Dearest”, and rightfully so. This woman has helped me to understand that my fears and anxieties are the result of fluctuating hormones. The result of a natural process that occurs in women between the ages of 35 and 50 (normally) called perimenopause. A ‘natural change’ that is, in my opinion, overlooked in the medical community. I spent hours upon hours reading the wealth of information on the Power Surge Website. I studied, I took notes. I visited the message board associated with this Website and found many, many other women going through the exact same thing I am going through. And I talked to them, through postings, and found the support and understanding that I could not find here in the ‘real world’. I took the information that I found through Power Surge, to my doctor. After reading my notes, he realized that I am not crazy. I am not a hypochondriac. I am going through the change of life.

I am still having a terrible perimenopause. This is certainly not an easy transition for any woman to endure, and I expect that I will be going through this ‘change’ for many more years to come. But thankfully, I found Power Surge. I now have somewhere that I can go and find the information that I need; other people that understand. Support, friendships, and Dearest. The time and effort that this woman puts into this website, and the love and understanding that she gives to these women that she has never met, and probably never will, should be highly recognized. If I could create an award for “Saving A Person’s Sanity”, it would be given to Dearest. She truly is a lifesaver, in my opinion. Power Surge IS an Internet Lifesaver; I am a living example of this.

Brenda Russell 

whoamitoday: “Dearest, I just came from hearing your voice on “What is Power Surge”and it brought tears to my eyes. You don’t know how good it felt to hear your soft, sensitive voice. Expressing all the feelings I have inside and can’t express to those loved ones who don’t understand what I am going through. You’re right – I do feel closer to those on this message board and other sites. It’s incrediable the bond we form. All strangers but yet “friends”. Thank you, Dearest for being you! Yet, I’m still not expressing all that is inside of me.”

Barbra: “This is one of the most incredible websites if not the most incredible website I have been to. This site has TRULY been a lifesaver for me. Thank you so much Dearest for what you brought to my life, and that is hope which I thought I had lost. What you have accomplished here is an inspiration for the whole world to see, the contribution you have made to Womankind is priceless. Where would so many thousands of women be without Power Surge.

Barbra “

Robert: “This site is a godsend. I don’t see many men posting but I am sure they are out there reading and learning as I am. I have learned so much about menopause to help my wife thru it. She is having a hard time and though I have learned about the symptoms, other then being there to support and stroke her.

I have looked all over the web for sites on menopause to help my wife and this is by far the most supportive and educational site I have found.

Congratulations and thank you.

Becky: ” This site is just wonderful. I had no idea what was going on and a friend pointed out this the power surge site. Yep, I am in peri and I am so thankful for all the tips, help and wonderful women on this board. Thank you so much.

ChrisSullivan: “Hi Dearest,

My name is Chris and I treasure the Power Surge site — everything from the message boards to recommendations, guests, etc. etc. What a wonderful way for all of us to support each other and gather a world of helpful information.

Thanks Dearest for continuing with this wonderful site and am looking forward to learning even more.

Christine Sullivan “

aikidomama: “To say that this site has pioneered the next major phase of the liberation of women, sounds a bit extreme, but it’s how I feel. The only thing that has stopped women from taking their rightful place in this world is the fact that we were all suffering in silence, thinking that we were going insane. Now that the truth has set us free, look out world.

Love you all and so glad I found you”

Irene Crites: “My Dear Dearest, How can one improve on perfection? Most would say one cannot however you do it time and time again. Everytime I see some new creation of yours for Power Surge I just scratch my head and smile. Power Surge, for me, is everything it could and should be. I receive support, caring, information, love and laughter all in one place. What a menu. I have never been shy about my feelings for you and Power Surge Dearest, you saved my life. No brag, just fact!!!! I will be forever grateful for that Sunday evening in 1995 that I just by chance (and I do mean by chance with my computer skills) landed in Power Surge. You have created a warm, safe haven for a population of women at probably one of the most vulnerable times of our lives,that you watch over like our “Guardian Angel”. You research all the newest information on menopause and other related subjects and share it all with us. The guest experts that you attract to our chats is just another confirmation of your professionalism and dedication to this community. The time you invest in personally answering posts is mind boggling; and then we open up the home page to a winter wonderland of music and snowflakes. You want me to suggest what else you could do???? I love Power Surge as it is. I love you Dearest as you are.”

Maniac: “Where would I be without Power Surge??? “

cookie: “Dearest, first of all let me thank you again for all your hard work, determination, support, and words of wisdom. How do you keep so much information in your head, it seems like I read it and then forget it. I have enjoy every aspect of the Power Surge site, guest transcripts to the message boards.  I don’t always get to the chats because of the time difference and by 10 o”clock my head is in bed. I guess for me Power Surge has made me aware that I am not alone in this journey and the vast amounts of information I receive here is cherished, the connection to other women on the same journey is so valuable to me right now. To have others reach out to me and on my good days I can reach out to them makes the journey not as scary as I first thought. What an accomplishment. Dearest, be proud… be very proud, for this site is truly a blessing.”

moozie: “Hi Dearest, I just read what you said to Valerie regarding depression/anxiety. If it wasn’t for you, Dearest, I would have gone mad. I will never ever forget what you have done for me, the talking the compassion, the patience. That is worth more than anything or anyone has ever given me. Thank you isn’t enough, but thank you.
Hugs, Moozie

Sundar: “Dear Dearest, It is you who are the most thoughtful. When I go to Power Surge, I can see how much thought and time that went into making Power Surge. The way everything is organized, making everything easily asseccible, information for whatever ails us right at our fingertips and just a click away, right down to the color scheme used, which by the way, is very soothing and easy on the eyes (I often have a hard time when reading things on the internet due to the glare of the screen and light colors used).

Sharing and compassion are priceless commodities that are oft times guarded in a miserly way, to be doled out sparingly. And with the internet available we find ourselves even having to pay for these things. “Get out your Credit Cards Ladies and Gentlemen, and buy your information and compassion right here for a very low price!” You are the one who has made it possible for others to look beyond themselves and to actually want to share. You have brought out the compassion, and empathy in each one of us.
Thank You, Dearest for your thoughtfulness. Sincerely,

Kareen: “Dearest, Your words of wisdom, as always, make me rejoice that there are people like you. Surfing Power Surge for some info on my Cholesterol problem, your wise refrain (which you have probably repeated a million times over the past decade!) for women to take ownership of their bodies, minds, and their lives in general, always inspires me to take another step toward wellness. Thanks for your continued support and GREAT web site. And yes, I’ve increased my R to one drink a day (in stead of half) and have quit my hormone therapy! We’ll see what the blood tests say in a month.
Blessings, Karreen 

blessedblond (Judy): “Dearest, this place is a Godsend. I don’t know what I would have done if I hadn’t found you. I’m in the big middle of full blown menopause and everything just “HIT” me about 6 weeks ago. Totally knocked the props right out from under me. But I know that with the help and support from God and all of you wonderful women that “We” will make it through! Thank You!!! Judy.”

Marcy: I just discovered your site a few days ago and I have been reading and reading and reading. I have learned so much and emailed your site address to every women I know. Again, thank you from the very bottom of my heart, I am so glad I am not really going crazy — well no more then I have been all my life.

Connie: “Great site and very informative. Glad there is help available for those of us going thru the “changes of life.” I find the articles very detailed and very helpful.
Thanks, Connie 

Nancy0531: “All I can say is Thank God!!!! I have found this site. I have been going through this bad peri stuff now for 6 & 1/2 months. I thought I was going nuts!! I have been looking for a support group & now I have found it. There are so many wonderful women here & we are all going through this terrible time & we share are feelings. Nancy”

Gretchen: “This is my first visit to the site. I am THRILLED to find it and look forward to exploring it fully. Thank you!”

cmpo: “Yes — Yes — Yes — what a wonderful site this is!!! It has helped me immeasurably and provided some calm in the midst of the peri storm. Knowledge for me is a very powerful tool. When I have been in the midst of palps, a racing heart, nausea and some of the other miserable things we all have gone through, I take great solace from the fact that others have lived through this just like me. And I look to those who have gone before or have found something that helps them get over a particular issue with some sanity and feelings of empowerment. I appreciate all of the posts and suggestions we have all given one another. We truly are a powerful and knowledegeable group! Chris”

Lassie: “There is no better medicine in the world then the assurance that you are not alone. That is what Power Surge has done for me. Words can not express what you do here means to me. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you. Dee”

Carmie: ” Thank you, thank you, thank you for this website. It has truly been an eye opener for me. A friend told me about it and I can’t thank her enough. You truly are a god send.”

Debra: “I am so grateful that I found your site. This is the first time I’ve read information that describes so accurately what I’ve been going through with the hot flashes, chills, insomnia, night sweats, depression.”

Deed (Diane): “My Dearest!

I’m a new member and just wanted to say thank you so much for this Web Site. I thought I was losing my mind with this internal shaking but found that it’s common during menopause from this Site. I’ve started the Cal/Mag and things are getting better. You are a genious. I Love You!!


CAULSES: “I think this site is the best thing that I have ever come across. It has helped me in so many ways just to know that there are so many woman that have the same feelings and panic that I do. Sometimes its just nice to know you have a place to let everythng out and talk to people who understand.”

TALLY: “I just wanted to tell you that this site has been a lifesaver for me since I joined. Tally”

texaslamb: ” Hi Dearest, I just found your site by accident. You sound so warm, gentle, and caring. Your voice is so sweet. I am looking forward to the scheduled chats. Thanks for putting this site togeather to help educate so many women. I am 57, postmenopausal, but have found myself becoming so irritable these days. I don’t enjoy life. Have wanted to leave this body behind a long time. I hope this site can help me find more meaning in life. Blessings, Frances (texaslamb)”

Tina: “All I can say is this site is a Godsend, and Thank You!! When I am feeling bad with fluctuating hormones and the palps are terrible and scaring me to death I come here and read and feel much better…there is no other menopause site that compares to this one. God Bless You Dearest!! “

Joline: “Dearest,
I wanted to take this opportunity to thank you for all the wonderful work you’ve done with this site. You have made going through these trying times easier to cope and have brought together the most wonderful group of women. Without power-surge I never would’ve met many of you, I am so grateful to know you all and to share our journeys through menopause, it makes lifes a little easier and more pleasant to be able to share. Power-Surge is the best, keep up the great work!!! Thanks again for all your hard work. Power-Surge has been such a positive influence in how I am handling menopause. I don’t know how you find the time to do this on your busy schedule. You truly are a special person and don’t ever forget that. Keep up the great work Dearest, you are vey much appreciated!!”

Bev: “Thanks for your help and patience in this matter, it is very much appreciated! Thanks also for the great work you do and the “personal touch” that you give so endlessly to us all! If there was some way I could ‘vote’ for your site — I’d be the first in line! Have a wonderful day! Thanks again for everything”

Yankeegal: “Hi Dearest and Other Friends, I first found Power Surge in 2001, and although I found it interesting, it didn’t really pertain to me… yet. Over the past couple of months though, my body has been changing and I’ve come back to Power Surge again and again. Not only is there a vast amount of information from the professionals, but there is a delightful group of supportive, friendly women! When I’ve needed information or a shoulder to lean on, someone’s always responded with just what I needed, and I hope I’ve done the same for others.

I would have to say that my favorite part is the Message Boards because it seems that whatever my concern, someone has already dealt with it, and is there to enlighten me. As far as suggestions. HOW can one improve upon the wheel? All joking aside, I can’t, at the moment, think of one thing that is missing from this site. But if I do, I promise I’ll share! Thank you Dearest, and everyone, for making this such an informative, friendly, wonderful site!”

Susan: ” Your website has been most helpful! Keep up the wonderful work you’re doing!!! : )”

Stephanie: “Dearest,

I will try to keep this as short as possible. I have only been a member for a very short time. I have found Power Surge can make me laugh, cry, think positively (sometimes) and I am slowly making some good friends.

I am, at the moment crying my eyes out. I just can’t believe your deep understanding from reading just one e-mail from me.

You don’t know me, yet you seem to. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.”

Nita: “Thank you for the book, for having the author in our Power Surge Chatroom and for your continued friendship. YOU have truly surged forward with Menopause. The Website is one of the best if not the best on the Internet. You are a very bright and caring woman. You have much to be proud of with your Menopause adventure. You have put so much of what is “you” in it.
Take care and be well dear friend,

darling: “I am so excited to have found this site. You have really outdone yourself. For you to take on this site and all the others involved it is like a big present under the Christmas tree. Thank you so very much. The Lord Jesus richly bless all of you!!!
LOVE darling “

Nan: “I am so happy to have found you! I am in the process of working with Pete and hopefully will get control over my body. Your whole web site is beautifully laid out and so easy to maneuver.”

Labs605: “I am very grateful to Dearest for coming up with I am truly learning how to finally tame this “beast” within me called menopause. I still go through bad days but knowing that Power Surge is here, helps me cope with my symptoms and gives me the strength I need to get through each day.

LindaZ: “ is a great website for women going through menopause. I’ve learned much reading as many different things as I can on the site. I thank you for all your hard work in researching the topics so important to women going through this tough phase of our lives. Just knowing one is not alone is a great help.
Thank you again,
Linda “

Christine: “Hi, from London England!! Thank God for Power Surge!!”

Barbara: “Dearest, The information in Power Surge is very, very good and easy to read than some of the books on different subjects. There is not a topic that doesn’t effect something about what you experience during this time in your life. To me everything you give is perfect. It is up to the individual to heed the warning of your body, because it will tell you whats wrong.
For this valuable information on Power Surge, I am deeply grateful:) Thank you.”

Sally: “Thank you! thank you! thank you!”

Debi Brasie: “I am just starting to go through menopause (actually about 7 months now). I was just placed on bio-identical compounds a month ago and already I feel a difference. Of course, much of the difference is the education I have received about my condition. I am a student in college and am doing a research paper on menopause and came across your website. Very Informative! Kudos to you for a wonderful educational tool!”

Wombat1071: “Thanks, Dearest! You run a phenomenal website!!”

Debra Simmons: “I am so grateful that I found your site. This is the first time I’ve read information that describes so accurately what I’ve been going through with the hot flashes, chills, insomnia, night sweats, depression.

newjourneys: “Dearest,

There are really no adequate words to express what your heartfelt efforts mean to this perimenopausal woman with regard to this website. About a year ago I came here as a last resort when things were really bleak and have continued to keep in touch sporadically. Just knowing this place exists, with its warm, caring community of women has and DOES make a world of difference – and honestly, on more than one occasion has literally saved my life. I am the only woman of my generation and information about women’s lives and physical changes has been at times very challenging to obtain. Plus, you took the time to personally respond to a prayer request. Everything did come out ok – all the tests clear – and my feedback to you about this site, dear woman, is THANK YOU from the very depths of my heart. Many times I’ve passed the URL on to other women, especially younger women coming up so that they too, can know there is a safe place to go.
I wish you all the Blessings in the world.
Peace, Judith”

anise: “Hello, Dearest,
I found your site just yesterday evening. It was a great relief.
Regards, anise”

aprillv68: “Dearest, thank you from the bottom of my heart for this wonderful website you created. I have made some friends and hopefully will continue to make new ones. It’s so nice to know that, as my husband says, I am not alone in this journey through the beginning of ‘midlife’ (my gosh i never imagined being there this soon!) I must admit, in a nutshell, i call this a “Test” a test of my sanity, my tolorences, my emotional, physical & all around stability. I am here every day, if even for a few minutes. It’s become my second ‘Home'”

brassedoff: “Dearest. Thank you seems so inadequate, but thats all I can say. Words are not enough. If you come to Australia let me know, because I would like to show you how grateful I am. This site has given me hope and reassurance. It has kept me sane when I was sure I wasn’t. Keep up the good work. Hugs and kisses to you and everyone who visits this site.”

Krista: To Wonderful Dearest,

I want to express my great respect and admiration for you. You are providing such a tremendous resource to enable women (and men) to better understand and cope with this transition. I really appreciate the insights and info you have shared about various symptoms on the boards and have found all of your posts to be very reassuring and helpful. In addition, your excellent writing ability makes them a pleasure to read.

Love, Krista

Pamela42: “Before an introduction I must let those at Power Surge, its founders AND participants, know how deeply grateful I am for their efforts on behalf of all of us. It was like finding the Answer Angel when I had questions about so many aspects of this “condition.”

The effects of menopause are new to me. I’m 62 and had a total hysterectomy about 20 years ago. Since then I’ve taken Premarin until February, when I simply could no longer afford it, so, not having any health insurance, went cold turkey. The hot flashes have been driving me nuts! I’m waaaay to old for this nonsense! But it’s happening, and I’ve found such useful information on natural ways to deal with them thanks to many posts here. Thank you! Thank you!

Light, Love and Huggies to all! Pamela”

copingcapers: “Dearest,

Thanks so much for this wonderful site! I’m from down under (Australia). I have 2 teenagers and am a full time primary teacher. This site has provided me with courage, strength and sanity to go on coping with all the unknowns of this journey. I can’t wait to have some contact with others thru this site. My main problems are insomnia, panic attacks and anxiety amongst many other things! Blessings to you and all those willing to share their lives on this site.”

pmeans3: “Very informative site. Keep up the good work!”

Libbett: “Hello Dearest!
This is by far the best Web site I have encountered that really tackles all issues of menopause. Instead of feeling like I was crazy for having constant fatigue, I’ve found some soulmates who are having the same problem. It feels so good to be able to talk with them and share ideas. This site is a godsend!! Thanks for all you do!!!

cleverendeaver: “”I was having a bad day and a good cry when I ran across this site. Just the name of this site made me smile! I HAD to look inside! I will definitely be visiting often and telling my friends about it! Thank you Power-Surge!”

Jennifer: “I truly enjoy your transcripts. Every one has good information and presents it in a positive manner. Great work!”

Dozier: “Thanks so much, and bless you for creating PowerSurge!! Best, Dozier”

Lilupar: “I am 43-yrs. old, I’ve experienced many (manageable) menopausal symptoms for several years. I came to this website while searching for information on loss of libido. This is the only symptom that truly distresses me. Thank you for the article that suggests herbal alternatives. This is eactly what I was looking for.”

Luau: Luau,

I have only been visiting your website for a short while, however I find it to be already informative and very helpful. Thank You for giving all the “natural and “surgical menopausal women a way to trasition themselves into what is normally a “diffucult period in a woman’s life. God Bless You, Dearest!

sweetface: “Boy, O boy, where do I start. I guess I’ll start by saying thank you Dearest for Power Surge. I just love coming to these boards and viewing everyone’s posts….I have been helped so much by Power Surge. I applaud you Dearest for these boards and the many women that have come to these boards. I just want to say thank you Dearest and all you great Women that have helped me when I needed it so much. I hope that in some way I have helped others too. I try and answer as many posts as I can even if it don’t pertain to me. Many many thanks Dearest and Ladies”

Thi: “Dearest – No word can describe my appreciation to you for transferring your knowledge and wisdom, for creating a warm, invaluable, trustful, educational environment for us in this difficult period of life.

I have visited many websites with similar subject area as Power-Surge, but the Dearest Power-Surge site is the only one that I can truly rely on for excellent information, warm supports and many many other things … and this shows everywhere on Power-Surge … through the presentation, structure … words…

We are blessed to have you. All the best Dearest”

Theresa: “Dearest,

You are one of a kind! A gift from God to us perimenopausal women. Every time I read one of your messages it brings calm to my body and a sense of hope and relief.

Everything I have learned on Power Surge has been helping me so much. I am by no means perfect – I still rotate on a regular basis from anxious – tired – crying – but I am getting better at accepting this as part of life. NHRT, R, CBT and Power Surge are my survival tools right now!!!

Thank you Alice from the bottom of my heart. I look forward to the day I will feel normal and will not need Power Surge!


ygirl: “I have been spending some time making sure that gals I know are aware of this resource. Today I received the following email:

‘Thanks for the website. I have been going through major menopause problems since 1995 when my periods started skipping every other month. You name the symptom, I probably have had it. I had my first major panic attack when I 911’nd that Spring. I have run the gamut from traditional medicine to alternative medicine where I got the most relief. The panic attack article is excellent. I knew my breathing was the problem. But, this is the first time I have found anything that teaches you how to change your breathing problem.’

‘I have passed this on to a young friend in her early 40’s who is experiencing continuous bleeding. Her “idiot” doctor told her a lot of women go through this and put her on birth control pills that stop her bleeding and periods all together. I told her to find another doctor. I have forwarded her the info from the website.’

Here is my suggestion friends. I estimate there are hundreds of thousands of women going through menopausal symptoms that have no idea this website exists. Why not take a moment and send them a note. The above came from someone I barely know and I never had any idea she would be so forthcoming. However, in doing so she has helped others.”

40something: Dearest thank you for all of your hard work. You have helped me so much by creating this wonderful site and caring community of women. I really have not found true support from my regular MDs. But this website has been wonderful. Love B Pharmacy and Ask the Experts, Transcripts, Message Boards…everything is great

I truly thank GOD that I found you. Sandy”

Boone: “This site is truly a life saver. I have learned so much from this site. It has helped me to help myself and others.

I think that this website is the beginning of the solution of this hormone nightmare. I think all of us hormonal females are becoming more educated and are speaking out to our doctors and other health care people. They can’t ignore us forever. They are being forced to look harder for solutions to our problems.

Thanks Dearest – you are a true gift from God.”

Sunlynn: “I have been posting on the boards for about 2.5 MONTHS. I feel like I have been posting on the boards for 2.5 YEARS. That’s how welcome I feel. When I first joined AOL about 2.5 years ago, I remember it mentioned a women’s site that you could check out. I am not sure why I did not check it out more often but I just now realized that because I was not really aware that the changes I was going through, ie: increased times of anxiety, dizziness, anger at my family for not being more self-sufficient, feeling the need to “connect more with women my age and older” etc. were even going on. I have since recommended POWER SURGE to many women knowing that THIS site is a more sensitve site. It was a Saturday night and I really needed something extra special to happen in my life. If you wait it WILL come. There was a missing link to help me deal with the ever changing things my life/body was going through. When I clicked onto to Dearest’s INTRO, I practically cried. I just kept repeating, WOW….WoW…thank you to the powers that be that always come through when you most need it and I was ready to accept it. It help put so many things in perspective and as so many of us have said “I am not crazy”. Everything from these message boards to the pluther of info. on the HOME page is so wonderful and inspirational.

So, “How are we doing”? I give you a 10 **********
An A+
A shake of the hand
Hats off to you
A nod
A smile
A thumbs up — 2 thumbs up
A wink, A hug
Sorry, can’t think of any negatives”

Kalanie: “I thank God every day that I found Power Surge. I first found it about 3 years ago, and hung around a bit until my denial took hold of me. As the denial got more and more difficult to keep intact because of increasing symptoms, I found my way back here in this past year.

Power Surge has helped me to learn so much about the transition of menopause… from my night sweats, to natural bio-identicals, to R, to other supplements/vitamins that have all made this peri experience much easier for me to handle. Now that I am facing some uterine problems, I have also found alot of information and support here from many women on the message boards.

Thank you for this site, Dearest, and thanks to all of the women here for the help they have given me. “

cwebster: “Dear Dearest; This site is a godsend! I have been able to find so many things that pertain to my own experience. It is comforting to know that what I am experiencing is the same thing that many other are and I most likely am not going to die. This is one site where you can actually find answers and that’s rare even on the internet. You’re doing great!!!” 

nansea: “This website is a Godsend. There is nothing “normal” about menopause but visiting your website allays my fears and worries, and helps me feel normal. It’s comforting to read about other women experiencing the same things I am. God bless you, Dearest, for creating such a help and hope for women at this stage of life.”

SylvryMoon: “Dearest, I first found this website in June, and every day I feel blessed that you have created it for us. I feel free here to express my problems and concerns, and to try to help others through my own experiences. This site, and these boards, have been a haven and a home for me — they are the first place I look in the morning — it’s a great way to start my day!

Thank you so much for your loving support and guidance, and for the gift of these boards.”

Janel: “Dearest, If it weren’t for YOU and Power Surge I would be crazy by now. It took me a while to trust in what I was reading, Took me longer to trust in what everyone was saying.I am not very trusting, Ya Think? Then I made my first post and the angels came, I could not believe what was happening, All these woman reaching out to me, the shock really came when THE WOMAN reached for me. Yes it was you Dearest with your life raft and my life has never been the same.

After 8 years of HRT I am on my 2nd week of none. I feel wonderful, and I was soooo scared to stop my hormones. I have went through almost 4 years of hell, now it is as if a fog has lifted and I am human again. It took me 3 months to wean off and the help of my friends here and of course R. (MY husband is also hooked on R Never thought I would see the day)

I dont have a P.C., only web t.v. and cant seem to get into the chats. Have spent hours trying.I do read them all when they come out on transcripts.

As for what you can do better, Well woman to woman, HOW IS Dearest? I know this time can not be easy on you anymore than it is for us. I also know that you are a very private person, but you are human with feelings. Please if and when you need it, Know that we are ALL here for you. Please dont always try to be the brave one alone. We Love You Janel “

wildflowers: “Dearest, I first found powersurge in September. I was a “lurker” for a month. But in that month I read much of the front board and every single message in the boards — every subject. Then I finally posted. From the first post I felt welcomed, informed, enlightened and at times entertained (our pet section). As yet, I am in peri, so I don’t have all of the symptoms yet. But I am happy to know the ones I have and will have more than likely are “normal”..As you know me. I’m one to question most things. My questions here have always been answered, when doctors could not or would not address them. I have just started R, and I can already tell a difference. I have met some good friends here and it is a terrific place to come to, to post, to read, to listen. I don’t feel any improvement is needed. Also the chats formal as well as informal are just wonderful. “

HippieHeron: “I can’t thank you enough, Dearest, for Power Surge!

When I first found Power Surge on the search engine last summer, I, of course, entered thru the introduction. And that introduction is so hopeful! That little lady in the spotlight was saying all of the same things that I had been upset about for over a year and when I went on to the “We are Family” pictures, my hope kept growing. Every comment by the pictures stated that the woman did not feel alone anymore and that was what I wanted: to not feel alone and not be made to feel like I was going crazy with these symptoms.

My first question at the message boards was about internal shaking. I was not experiencing it at the time but I did have it about a year earlier and it accompanied the first time I skipped my period for several months. I knew it had to be a meno symptom but no one else had ever heard of internal shaking. Of course my doctor never heard of it, but it wasn’t mentioned in books either and I could not find many women who were willing to talk about meno. It still bothered me because I wanted to know what it was. I was afraid it would come back someday. I was so relieved to find that other women were experiencing it too. Also the itchy feeling (I think its called formication?) was bothering me alot at about the same time and it worried me. But I got the answers here at Power Surge and it has been such a relief!

The best parts about Power Surge are the message boards because that is where we can all talk to each other about our meno experiences. This is what relieves the lonely feeling. Dearest, you and all the other women here at Power Surge are so caring and helpful, I don’t know how I managed without you! I consider all of you to be my very good friends. The chats and guest transcripts are also helpful. The anxiety and panic transcripts especially because there is a lot of comforting advice and information in them.

Thank you again, Dearest. Power Surge is great! A real blessing!”

brownie: “I would like to say that this Board, Dearest and all of my meno-sisters have been a God-send to me! I don’t know where I would be without you all!! Thank you for an excellent format and for answering my questions in an intelligent, thorough and comprehensive manner. I check with this Board before I talk to my doctors.

As you can tell from the growing number of members, a lot of women (and men) are realizing the usefulness of Power Surge.

Please keep up the good work!! “

NancyV: “Hello,

I think the site is so well done in its format which is easy to use and the topics are varied enough and keep changing which meets the needs of people with varied interests. I think it is fun to see the birthdays and inspirational topics, even dreams in addition to the very important topics of the hot flashes and all the physical things that go with menopause.

Because of Power Surge, women can compare notes with each other and be emotionally supportive as well. With what we learn here, we can go to our doctors and ask intelligent and informed questions and even know if we need to change doctors to meet our needs.

I read the guest transcripts from time to time and can’t believe all the good info. I read Dr. Lendon Smith’s recently about the sense of smell which I thought interesting. There are so many good experts available to us here in transcripts and chats that makes me think this is the gold standard with information for women’s health. I don’t know how it can be improved because it is obvious that you Dearest put a lot of time in keeping it clear and easy to read and fun and informative. You have such a sense of humor too which makes it fun also.

I’d say A+….thank you for your continued commitment to this! “

EileenG: “Hi Dearest,

It’s been almost a year since I got my computer (learned to surf the web) and discovered Power-Surge. I was told at the same time I was menopausal (post). The site has been a God-send to me! I especially was grateful to all the women who welcomed me. Some who have moved on and don’t post anymore. I will always feel blessed to have had them in my life during this very intense and confusing time.

As for suggestions? I can’t think of any. You are always 10 steps of us on anticipating what we might need or want. Thank-you for all the hard work and for caring about us so much! “

marsun: “Dearest,

This treck in my life was very scary. I was experiencing symptoms that were sometimes very overwhelming, and I felt so alone. Just hearing that so many of you ladies can relate to what I’m going through has given me my life back. I’m not so afraid anymore and the symptoms have dissapated a lot. Thank you so very much for helping me the way you have. I just hope that more women who are going through this phase, know they are not alone and take advantage of this website. You are truly God sent!!!!!! Marsun “

Carol S from PA: “Dearest: I feel that finding this site was the answer to my prayers. The reputable information on this site is incredible, and your personal, genuine concern for women on this site is above and beyond anything I would expect.

How is this site doing? I can’t see where it could possibly be improved. All we need is for people like me, and any other women who visit the boards, to do so faithfully. The information that you post is always welcome, as well as the reputable and informative guest chats you have.

You should be very proud of your accomplishments and how much you have helped others. You have done a great job.”

Suzie: “Hi Dearest, I want to let you know I really felt as though I was going off the deep end more than once, and after checking in on power surge, I didn’t feel so alone. I absolutely love the transcripts and have recently ordered books from some of your guests. I also feel alot of warmth and caring from all the ladies on the message boards.

Thank-you all!
Suzie “

boni: “When I found Power-Surge back in Aug 2001 I was a mess. I had gone to Doctor to doctor, been on the patches, pill, injections, herbs, everything. Nothing worked. I felt like I had hit the bottom of dispear.

Thanks to Dearest, she educated me on “R.” I am now on my third month and will continue forever, but most of all she turned me on to “Pete” at B Pharmacy.

I found a Doctor that was all for Natural Compound hormones, after talking with Pete about my life style, as I am a endurance athelete pushing my body every day. I found that taking hormones once a day was not cutting it, I was completly depleted by mid day. The doctors would not listen to my needs and I was a mess. Pete and my wonderful new doctor decieded that I need hormones 4x daily, sub-lingual plus DHEA as my level was almost zero, along with Trans-D tropin. It has been 2 weeks now and I am back to “Normal”. The anxiety, panic attacks, depression, insomina and the other symtoms have gone. My body is totally focused. Taking that hormone sub-lingual is like getting an injection, within a few seconds it’s in my body.

Thank you Dearest with out “Power Surge” I hate to think where I would be now.. I hope that others will look into all the resources available and use them.

Thank You again.”

Darlene: “I just want to thank you for your fantastic website. Power Surge has been a life saver for me. Being able to “meet” so many other women who are experiencing the same rotten perimeno symptoms has made me feel much less isolated and CRAZY! I have been reading and posting on the message boards on a fairly regular basis, and lots of times they are the only thing that gets me through the day!

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!

MichelleD: “Just dropping a note to remind Dearest how much I love these boards. I am feeling alot better than I did almost 3 yrs ago (is it really that long) when I logged on for the first time after going from dr to dr to fnd out what could be wrong with me. Powersurge saved my sanity and my health and got me through some pretty dark days. I still check in on an almost daily basis because there is always something new to learn and I like to now help others who might find themselves where I was 3 years ago. We need these boards here forever. Thanks Dearest. “

seeker: “Don’t know if thank you is enough, I am so grateful to have found Power Surge. Now I know I am not losing my mind. It’s such an awful thought to think there are so many women out there with all the same symptoms that I have. But it is also so wonderful to know that I am not alone and not going crazy. Thank you for being here with all this information to help make this trek just a little easier.

Peggy ”

Blueschick: “Dearest — You’re doing great! Finding Power Surge last year was like finding the Mother Lode of Menopause information. When I first found the site, I was experiencing uncomfortable symptoms that I had no idea were related to perimenopause. In the last few months, things have accelerated quickly to where I am definitely in full-blown perimenopause with all the lovely “perks” such as night sweats, hot flashes in the day, etc.

I have finally gotten relief from a naturally compounded estrogen/progesterone prescription. Without Power Surge, I would never have known that this option was available. While the strength of the prescription might still need some tweaking, the overall sense of well-being I have gotten (with no side effects) from this form of HRT has been wonderful. The message boards are a great resource and a good place to go for reassurance and comraderie. Having transcripts from the enormous list of experts is like having a personal Meno library in which to browse.

I am a freelance writer who is working on a story for my local daily paper about Menopause today. You can be assured that the web address for Power Surge will be listed somewhere in the article.

Keep up the good work! “

billiegail: “I would echo everyone else too. I really like this site alot. You have done a great job! This site covers everything we go through as women. The site is just so full of posts. There are pages and pages of replies. I have been reading and reading and reading. I am getting a free education! I love to read so this is great. There is still so much to learn. Thanks for a great place to visit and be educated. Everyone here is great! “

Wordgirl: “Honestly, there is nothing on the Internet that c-o-m-p-a-r-e-s with PowerSurge. The information offered here is enormous (and the format is really easy to navigate) and the support is fantastic. I only wish I could tell every peri and menopausal woman on the planet about it–it could alleviate so much suffering. I think women are so short-changed by their doctors and the media by being given such narrow choices. I sometimes feel guilty that I’ve benefited from PS while others are in the dark on so many health issues.

Long live Dearest and PowerSurge! “

tinabrul: “To Dearest and all my friends,

I love Power Surge. I have posted on other message boards before and NEVER felt the ‘community’ that I feel here. The acceptance, compassion, understanding and replys to my messages, etc. has never been so ‘real’ before. I guess it’s because we are all mature women, (even though many times I feel like a frightened little girl – there is a certain ‘seasoning’ that comes with age) in the same boat on these rough waters together. From a technical point of view, the boards are EASY to navigate, and very well designed. The home page and information pages are full of material to read and become educated in perimenopause and menopause as well as women’s issues.

I am so grateful to Power Surge and Dearest and anyone and everyone else who makes this board feel like having tea with a good friend. I wish we all lived in the same neighborhood sometimes, but there is great comfort that someone on the opposite side of our country (or world) is thinking about me and caring.

Thank you and God Bless you. tinabrul “

heyvern: “This site has been my life line the past few weeks since I found it. I’ve gotten invaluable information but more than that, support and so much caring from everyone. It doesn’t matter what any given day has dealt me, there’s someone who’s experienced it and is more than willing to help. I appreciate what you’ve done here so much. Thank you.”

Flossie: “This is an excellent site, well run and moderated, and a lifeline for baffled meno babes! It is easy to navigate, tidy, and fun to use. Many of the sites I visit are difficult to view, poorly run and confusing – but not Power Surge.


Susan: “I cant believe that it’s been months now since I found your site. It was exactly what I was looking for and needed. You cant know how much information that I’ve learned. How I feel like I’m part of this family I know that by creating this site that you have helped so many baffled and scared women. You have been an answer to prayers. Thanks. Love Susan.”

Suz: “I just found this site a couple of days ago and have spent more time reading through the current and past posts, transcripts etc that I have neglected the other things I should be doing but the information I have taken in is invaluable to me. Even after only these few days my outlook and attitute has changed for the better.

I have not bothered to look for or at any other sites as I feel this one covers all the questions I have or will have in the future. It is a place where I know I can go to if something new or unusual shows up and get either answers or at least understanding.. Thank you Warm regards “

PatC: “Since I first heard about this site in January, I am still amazed about the amount of information and the dedication of women that made me feel personally welcome into this community.

With the huge volume of useful information, power-surge is still easy to navigate. Just one of the items I found was a lab that does hormone testing. This site is extremely well organized.

I also like sharing and learning about midlife experiences with so many others like me in the message board. I find myself looking forward to the Thursday evening chats. I think most of all, I like knowing I’m not alone.”

Wilma: “When I signed up on this web site in Dec. 2001, there were approximately 3400 members. Today, there are over 19000. That is amazing, not to mention all the information. When I start feeling kinda low, I simply log on and read, and then I don’t feel so alone with all the symptoms. However, I feel the symptoms are slowly disappearing with the use of R, being a user since Jan. 30, I can truly tell the difference, and am slowly tapering off HRT. I hope to be completely off the HRT when I get my physical this spring. Thanks for all the info. and support!”

Kate: “Dearest, Power Surge has truly been a safe harbor for me during this tumultuous (meno) journey! The information has been invaluable and the comraderie, support and kindness across the boards is awesome. I am so proud to be a member of this community which you have so generously provided for all the women of the world! Thank you so very much!”

Pam: “Dear Dearest
I just joined your site last week and already I am finding it to be very very helpful. I am 50 years old and in the past year have had only 2 periods, but lots of different symptoms. Lately I feel like all I do is go to the doctor for one problem or another and they don’t find anything wrong. Just reading many of the posts makes me feel better that while my symptoms are very real, they are also shared by others and I’m not turning into a hypochondriac!!

Thanks for being there. “

Lesley: “I am very new to Power Surge and have been amazed at how much information there is to absorb, It certainly has been a god send for myself and I must say my poor family.

I have been going crazy with worry and wonder for the past few years with no positive answers or compassion from my Dr. as to my fears. Also I have been driving my family crazy with my up’s and down’s.

Now that I have found this site and read and see that I am not going crazy or have some dread disease I am able to relax a little about what is happening. Just knowing makes a person feel so much better and with the amount of caring, loving people here along with the wealth of information that is available is just what a woman needs.

I am so thankful to have found Power Surge and all the wonderful caring people here. “

Wildflowers: “Many of you already know how I feel about Power-Surge. I think it is a remarkable site!…I have found so much valuable information about all stages of womens lives..and more. Power-Surge is/has been a “life-saver” for me and I know many others, an invaluable assest to me, as well as others. I can’t think that there could ever be any improvement needed.

Power-Surge has enabled me to understand so much of what is going on now and the past and the future”

ColoradoWoman: “Thank you for providing a section where we could all say a hugh THANK YOU! The best thing about Power Surge is that there is no judgement. Each of us are experiencing menopause differently and the caring that everyone shows is SO important to our surviving this. I have learned more there than I ever have from my doctors and feel like I have a family of women who listen and aren’t afraid to share their feelings. If no one else in your life will listen, come here….we all will. Good job maintaining this board, Dearest. We all owe you our thanks and a hardy “you go girl”!! 

fireonthemtn: “Dearest and all the great power surge posters. Thank you so much for what must be a job and a half! This site should get a Nobel Peace Prize!!! 🙂 Not only have I made some good internet friends, but these are people who respond with grace and kindness and humor … who always make me feel so happy to be a woman at this stage of life! This site is a joy. Period! I hope it lasts forever. Anytime I need advice I look for the approriate subjects and start reading, my only problem is that there are SO MANY!!!! I’m sure I have missed a few. Thank you again.. You are amazing. What a great idea and thank you to all the people who give advice and share stories and are such good listeners and responders!!!! I love flying in and just resting for awhile on the big shoulders offered here.” 

Hopefloats: “Hi Dearest. I am pretty new here and already I am VERY excited about Power Surge!!! I am enjoying finding my way around and there is just so much information here, that I am thrilled. From what I have experience so far, I would like to say this is the absolute best site yet, and I will be passing it on to my women friends!! I find the site not only informative, but there is a real kinship here too. I am just counting this as another blessing in my life!!! Best wishes for continued success!!!


debrikkia: “I just realized that I haven’t yet written my words of praise for this wonderful site. Although I’ve been visiting Power Surge for many years, I’ve just recently begun to “take part” in this wonderful community of caring, wise, humorous women. I visit this site daily, and ALWAYS find something that helps make my day better. When anxiety starts to get a hold of me, I come here and absorb myself in these message boards. It has helped when nothing else did. I honestly do not believe that there is another site out there, that is SO well organized, nor one that has the unlimited sources of information and offers of comfort, than Power Surge does. Dearest, thank you so much for following your heart and making this possible for the rest of us. And, to all you PS sisters — thank you for always being there with words of comfort and genuine concern.

Power Surge Rocks! :)” 

June Swederofsky: “Through Power Surge I heard of the different symptoms of menopause. Just recently I looked at the board about bleeding because I started again then stopped. As I did I learned I’m not the only one skipping periods and having to start all over.” 

sissyq2: “Honestly, If it weren’t for Power Surge.. I would have no idea what was happening to me? I would still be thinking I was going crazy.

Thank you Dearest, for caring enough to create Power Surge. Even though the symptoms of Meno still stinks! The support of these message boards makes life a little easier!”

nel: “Dearest, I appreciate your Power Surge web site so much. I happened to come across it recently while doing a search on a strange physical phenomenon that was happening to me (one of many), and this site popped up! I’m new here, and getting the hang of it all, it seems. It’s so comforting to know there are others who really understand what I’m feeling. The other women here are so friendly and helpful – they’re the kind of people I’d seek out as friends. Everyone treats each there with kindness and respect. I plan to continue posting, time allowing, as new problems continually seem to crop up at this stage of life! The information I receive here is invaluable, and way more informative than any info I receive at the doctor’s office. I can’t think of a thing you should do differently, so can’t offer anything there.”

kea4: “Dearest,
First of all I would like to expess my gratitude for this wonderful sight. It is truely a gift from God. I was wondering if a topic on mid-life career changes could be started. I know that menopause totally changes women’s lives and therefore a lot of women become more creative and less consumed with ambition. I am in the throes of wanting to be free of my job to have more time and ENERGY to allow my creativity to flow and yet the MONEY… I would love to hear how other women have had the courage to find and pursue their unique gifts at mid-life.


jennyp: “Thanks for all the info! I was really out of control two months ago, and feeling like I was literally “falling apart”. I had lost all sense of control of my body—> my life. With the help of some of the linked articles, especially on nutrition and supplements, reading recommended authors, and e-mailing the expert pharmacist, I now have gotten it back together. I have passed some of the knowledge I gained along to colleagues, who are also in the same place. Thanks much for the valuable info and the opportunity to share and learn form each other!”

dejavu: “Dearest Dearest,
I come to Power Surge about a year ago. I was desperate for answers , the tears , the fears were overwhelming. I was suffering from the unknown until I had the chance to talk to others that were experiencing the same things..and through their understandings I was able to cope. I was found to have to little estrogen and had that adjusted and was ok for a time.. then had to adjust them higher again and once again here I am (although Month Later) experiencing more symtoms.. needless to say this site has helped me in so many ways.. I am ever so thankful for all you here.

My best to you all …
~ Hugs and more hugs ~

jomama: “Dearest,

I just found this board a month ago and it has already made me feel better just knowing im not alone. I have tried other the sites but this is the best and friendliest. I had alot of anxiety and other symptoms.Anxiety gets to me I come here and just reading seems to calm me knowing others have the same things.

Thanks for being here it has been a life saver for me.”

maxie bryant: “Hi Dearest,

Just wanted to say Thank You for your recommendation to use R and to let you know I’m doing better. I have not completely gotten rid of my menopausal symptoms but I am doing much better than six months ago. Coming to this site is God Sent.

Once again Thank You for your support and understanding heart. May God Bless you”

Miranda: “I am very new to Power Surge. I haven’t really had a chance to look around much. I recently left a community. It started as a positive experience but ended up being the biggest mistake I had ever made. I have a lot of trust issues, not to mention panic disorder. I hope in time I will find a place I am comfortable speaking in. It would be nice to get positive support. I look forward to viewing the site!”

Lelani: “I am new to this website but so very glad I found it. After a year of frequent bladder infections at age 38-39, followed by night sweats, hot flashes, anxiety, etc., I thought I was losing my mind! My husband thought I was crazy when I mentioned perimenopause and said I was too young! After viewing some of the messages, I know I am not too young, and I am not crazy! Thank you very much!”

Gemini: “I discovered this site last October, but rarely used it until recently. Now I am ‘hooked’ on it, getting to know the personalities on here, and learning a lot. It is so good to have somewhere to come where someone else will know what you are going through and how you are feeling. I am only starting out on this journey really, and am glad that I found Power Surge at this stage. I like the fact that you can talk about anything here. Any topic whatsoever to do with the menopause, and any topic NOT related – pets, English/Amercian words etc!! 😉

People have mentioned the chat sessions, and how they are helpful in getting to know each other. I haven’t been to any yet, I can only manage the lunch time or 6 pm ones due to the time difference, but fully intend to make it to those some time soon.

Thank you Dearest for the wonderful idea, and to all you other lovely ladies for your input :)”

nkk: “I first found nearly 2 years ago. Not knowing much about menopause, I took the little quiz on the first page that tells whether you might be in peri or not. Actually, it was from here that I first heard the term perimenopause. I remember thinking then how well done the site was, but I just didn’t think it was for me — I wasn’t going to have any more problems than the few I was having! Not me — I’m vegetarian, healthy, feel younger than my age. Well, I was wrong — more symptoms crept up on me :confused: and I came back. I wish I’d never left in the first place!

What can I say, Dearest? This place is just spectacular. You have created something so perfect for us that I can’t put it into words. And technically, wow — I’m truly impressed with what you’ve done. I know just a little about web design, but enough to know that power-surge is top-notch. Yes, you done good, girl! Thank you. And another thank you to all of the friends I have made on the boards. I have just been posting for a couple of weeks, but you have welcomed me into your midst and made me just one of the gang. I haven’t felt this kind of warmth and caring in a long time. :)”

athenea: “I’ve learned so much here since I first signed on – not just meno topics, lots of other things too – I don’t think I was very good at listening to others before I came here, I feel like I learned how to do that here and how to share.

I think I started to like myself more – understand myself more and take advantage of the aspects of my character and personality which may have been subdued due to meno stuff and not knowing how to handle the emotional transition involved in all this.

Thanks to my super friends and all you great girls here – it’s just so spontaneous no matter how small the problem or doubt I wish I had more time, just lately but the type of work I do doesn’t give me much chance to be here quite as regularly as before – I try to not because it’s any obligation – it’s ‘cos I want to be here – it’s uplifting and it’s like no other place on the web. I wonder why I feel like when I’m here, I’m not online – using internet, I feel like I’m drinking coffee with friends in a comfortable lounge – where I can be just me – This is friendship, therapy, practical help and so much great stuff – all rolled into one – there aren’t many places where you can get a package deal like this.

Thanks, Dearest, again and again, this place reflects you so much. It’s good, it’s open – it’s warm it’s intelligent – and it gets better every day!!!!

Barbie xxxxxxxxx

stormy198: “I’m new here and just beginning to find my way around, however, so far so great. Glad I found you ( and hope you get better!)


raeh: “Dearest,

You have done a very helpful thing for women with power surge. I have told many, many people about power surge. I have learned about symptoms that I have never heard of before. I have seen how women can be supportive of each other here. It is a great place to go when going to power surge!!!” 

Terre: “I am just so grateful for this site & all the sisters that are here as well as the staff. Whatever you may do try to educate your daughters with all the information you collect here. I have to say I was scared to hell, till I knew I was no different than others. I actually feel so much better. I have good days and rough days. But it has been so much easier with all the support from the staff & sisters I have come to call my family. Power Surge. God Bless. Terre.”

HippieHeron: “I just realized that today is my anniversary – 1 year since I found and joined Power Surge. To celebrate, I just want to again say “Thank You, Dearest!” Thank you for providing us with this website. It is great! It has really made a difference in my life and has filled a great need in my life for other women who I can talk to about these uncomfortable, scary and embarrassing things that meno has done. Talking to all of you here has greatly helped me and thanks to you, Dearest, and some of the expert’s advice from the chat transcripts, I no longer have the intense anxiety and shaking that I used to have. Instead I have quite a lot more self confidence! :cheesy: (and no more hot flashes! :biggrin: lol ) Again, thank you very much! :)”

athenea: “Happy Anniversary Ruthie! and I’m so happy for you that you feel good in so many ways. Can’t deny it, this place helps bigtime! Kisses, Barbie”

Cabo: “HippieHeron,

Happy Anniversary to you. I must remember mine next March. This wonderful place we have is a gift. We get to know one another and help and be helped. How great this is. Good luck to you Hippie.
Peace Cabo”

Kleeo: “Boy, how Power Surge has helped me? When I first entered the good ole PERI stages, 2 years ago, Power Surge was there, right along with Dearest and MaryO and my other fine friends, to help keep me sane. Without this amazing retreat, I know I would have gone completely crazy. Dearest and her Power Surge website are what the internet should be: Resourceful, Informative…..NOT to mention caring, friendly and soothing.
Love and HUGGERS! Kleeo”

teachtoo: “Dear Dearest, I found out about you quite by accident. I was reading posts from the Weight Watcher board and this site was mentioned in a response. At that time I had been on my period for 10 days. I had not been to the doctor yet. Thanks to this board, I became an informed woman almost overnight. Not only was I comforted by reading about others in the same situation, but I immediately ordered two books recommended here. (Dr. Lee and Dr. Corio) Without the boards and the books, I would have blindly taken the HRT the GYN gave me. After bleeding for 17 days, I had a mini D&C. He tried to give me Prempro to regulate the period. I refused it. He still ended up giving me a synthetic estrogen and Prometrium. The estrogen gave me headaches and after taking it for two days, I stopped, ordered some progestorone cream and have been using that. That was last month. I am on my period now. So far it is normal; I just pray it will stop. Anyway, without this board, I shudder to think how I would be doing at this point. I am 49 and I know, thanks to this board, that I can get through this period of my life. I am informed now and have a much better understanding of what my body is going through and what I can do to help myself without completely relying on the Gyn whose only solution is to give out HRT at the first sign of irregular bleeding. My hormone levels were never tested. Why give estrogen to a woman who has been bleeding for 17 days without first checking? I am experiencing so many of the problems other women are having. It’s so nice to know that this is a part of peri and not some dreaded disease. Again, without this site, I would have gone crazy trying to figure out what was wrong with me.”

HSpec: “This marks my first year anniversary as a member of the best web site ever.

Dearest, thank you so much for power surge. I just know that I would not have survived this year without you and power surge. The love and support I have found here is just amazing. Not only do I now have a better understanding of perimenopause and menopause, I have also found friendship, compassion and support for all of the aspects of my life.

There is a big part of me that can’t believe that it is just a year since I discovered power surge. I feel like many of the women here, especially you, have been my friends forever. It is all just so wonderful.

So again, I say thank you.

Be safe and be well.

Cassandra: “Hello,

I have only been on board for about three weeks, and I can honestly say that the moment I read similar testimonials, I felt absolute relief! So if this is what I got in three weeks, I can’t wait for what will happen in the next few years.

Thank you for your insight and guts to get all this together for someone like me. Yes, I am taking it personally! And thank you to everyone who contributes.


Wordgirl: “Dearest, have I told you lately that I love you?! As my symptoms worsen (skipping periods now, for the first time and often feel I’m nearing insanity) the thing that helps me the most is coming here and reading about everyone’s misfortunes! (Err, you know what I mean.) My ProGest and R still help, but what gets me through *emotionally* is the women here. Where would I be without it, I wonder?

At the health food store today, another women was looking at the menopausal-type supplements and we struck up a conversation. Well, of course I told her all about the website and Dearest. She was so thrilled! She wrote it down and was going home to check it out. I know she’ll love it.

So, how are we doing? This website has no equal.


missruth: “Hi Dearest, this is my first time responding on this site but wanted to tell you how I feel. Just found the site about 2 weeks ago but am very grateful that I did. I cried my eyes out when I finally read what others said they were going through which was exactly what I was feeling.

I feel that this site is answered prayer as I asked god for help. I thought I was going to die. The only problem I had for years was hot flashes but at the end of june 2002 I started having heart palpitions, panic attacks, tremors and digestion problems. With all of this starting at the same time you can imagine how afraid I was.

Your site is the best. Don’t know what I would have done (or would do) without it. Keep up with the good you do for all of us but relax also. Thanks so very very much.” 

kellie: “I can’t tell you all how having this sight to come to, has helped me cope with what I experience in this part of my life. When I first started reading what you all go through I realized I wasn’t going crazy that I’m going through the change of life. All the goofy things that I do and feel and experience are just part of it. What a relief! This sight is a definet blessing in my life.”

tmil: “Well, I have to say this is just GREAT!!!! Finally there is a place for us to comfort each other, learn something new about our bodies, find an answer to a symptom emergency (you know when something else happens and you panic…Is this normal question??!!). I am thrilled to be a part of such a great group of gals. To Dearest…YOU GO GIRL!!!” 

Cher224: “Dearest, you are doing just fine! I hardly miss a day reading posts and like you said “you have saved my sanity”, you have helped me through some very desperate and scary days and moments. I hope you are here for a long, long time. Since I am just in peri, I think I will be needing you for awhile. Thanks for being there.”

MaryO: “Another hearty “thank you!” from me. Even days like today, when I’m in hermit mode, I’m always reading, getting support, learning things from what everyone else has posted and what you’ve lovingly put on the website for us.

It always amazes me, the scope and breadth of all the information that you’ve made so easy for us to read. Sometimes, I go back and read the older guest transcripts and I’m amazed at how truly timeless the information is.

I would imagine that running a site like Power Surge is a lot of work, mostly thankless work. I can’t thank you enough for all the hope and help that PS has given me over the last 7 (?) or 8 (?) years. It’s changed me in more ways than you’ll ever know.

Thanks again :)”

SylvryMoon: “A big DITTO from me, to what Mary said.

Although I don’t post much any more (try to get out in the evenings, to stay away from isolation), I am still lurking, responding occasionally, but always – ALWAYS – my heart is with this website, with Dearest, and with everyone here.

At the ripe old peri-menopausal age of (*ahem*) 50, I yearn for some of the wisdom and serenity I find in the women’s posts here. I’ll be there someday. In the meantime, I’ll keep reading and learning.

Hugs to you, Dearest!! You keep us all alive and in touch with our bodies, our emotions, our spirits, and our FRIENDS here on these boards!”

sturdywoman: “Dearest, MaryO and all of you who have shared your hearts & saved my sanity:

Power Surge has been better for me than any hormone! I found all of you when I was starting to feel soooo defeated. I found that with each post that I read was a little part of me, a symptom I was having, or something I was afraid to share. So thank you for doing it ahead of me so I know it’s OK! When I am struggling I think of all of you and I am stronger, more optimistic and less lonely. Hurrah for all of us! We will make it through this together & and be wiser for it . sturdywoman “

Suzie: “Hi Dearest,

I’m still enjoying your web site and log in at least once a day! Sometimes several! I feel like I’ve learned a wealth of information about menepause. I feel sometimes like I”m more informed than my Dr. ! I’m trying a new gynocologist next month and hopefully she’ll be up to date on what goes on during this time.

I think someone should definately educate the medical profession MUCH MORE in this area! Thank God for your web site for all of us who are fortunate enough to have found it. Women definately need support and education at this time of our lives and I really feel like I’ve found it here. Thank-you.


kathycw: “Power-surge is wonderful. It introduced me to R Soy, Dr. Lee and progesterone cream. Just when we think we have this all under control, we are thrown a curve. But, then we read the posts and find out that we are not alone. Someone else has had this experience, and tells you what they did. What worked for them and what did not, so we realize, okay this is a crazy time in our lives, but we are not alone.

Thanks to Power-Surge.”

Cabo: “What a great site this has been for me. I remember back in March when I was somehow led to this fine place, I felt so alone and different from the person I had always been. My creativity seemed to be lost, my patience was way out the window, I looked different than ever before and I felt no one understood, therefore I didn’t acknowledge it much. Finally I find this haven of information, compassion, understanding, peace, acceptance and laughter. I began to look at all this as somewhat a funny thing, like laughing at myself, in a good way that is. Anyway I could go on and on, but what I hope to show others is appreciation and to be able to reciprocate what has been given to me.

Thanks Dearest and everyone. Peace Cabo.”

debrikkia: “I add my name to the list of women who’s lives have been turned around by this Power Surge site.

Twelve years ago I entered surgical menopause with NO information about what was to come, or what to expect–just take that little estrogen pill every day and you’ll be fine. We all know it doesn’t work that way. Although I’ve visited PS for many years, I didn’t get actively involved until a year ago. Since then my life has been transformed through the wealth of knowledge and information available here, through Dearest, MaryO and all the women of Power Surge. Without this site, I would still be suffering, not realizing that so many symptoms are attributed to menopause and hormone fluctuations. I probably would have convinced myself by now, that I was insane.

I am no longer afraid of this thing called menopause, nor of all of it’s many faces. I also would like to thank all the “experts” that have taken the time to join us in chat, to share their information with us, and answer our questions. Thank you Dearest for making that possible!

Thank you Power Surge!


Abigail: “I am off Prempro and anxiously awaiting my first shipment of R. Thanks to this site I can make decisions about alternatives to HRT. Also, since I’m almost over the edge.

I sometimes hang on to this site for dear life. THANK YOU!!!!!”

dreamweaver: “Hello, It was such a God send that I happened upon this web site. I had all but given up any hope of finding anyone out here in cyber space that might have the slightest inkling of what I was going through. Because of your web sight I have gained strength from all of you who have shared your experiences through these message boards. God Bless everyone of you and Thank You!!!”

tinabrul: “At a time when I felt alone and totally at a loss to what was going on with me, I found power surge. There was such a sense of relief to realize I was not alone and not a ‘medical mystery’…how ignorant of this whole meno thing I was! Thank you incredibly alot for helping me through this time in my life.”

Nanshh: “Dearest, Thank-you. Thank-you Thank-you!!!!! Nan”

virgomom: “I am so happy to have found all of you, and Dearest, you are a lifesaver. I was just beginning to realize that I needed some help for these problems which overwhelmed me, if nothing else—-to hear that other people felt the same way as me. One minute, I feel at ease in my own skin, sure that there has never been a time in my life when I felt so comfortable with being me. Then the next day—- I don’t know myself—don’t know what I want, who I am, nothing. My husband and sons are perplexed, but patient. I hold back more than they will ever know.

Thank you so much for the information, the chats, and the support.”

zoltanm: “you guys are doing great”

CSugarGrove: “Dearest, this site has helped me more than all the therapists in the world! I’m 51 and I’ve nearly completed my first year without a period. I was doing fine until this summer, when the hot flashes and mood swings got so bad I couldn’t stand it anymore. My doctor (unbelievably, a female who has gone through menopause!) prescribed HRT for me 18 months ago, but I didn’t take it at first because I thought I could control everything with self-talk and strict mental control.

However, it got to the point this summer where I was exploding all the time at little things; loading the dishwasher, untying a knot, waiting in line. I have been married to a wonderful man for 20 good years. We always got along fine, but now I was becoming edgy and irritable all the time. I started blowing up at him for normal everyday things that never used to bother me. For example, we’ve always been playful with each other. We had silly games and secret code words. But now, when he tickled me or just touched my hair, I grew tense and wanted to scream, “Don’t touch me!” Then, later on, the anger would dissolve and I was filled with overwhelming grief, sobbing, apologizing. What was happening to me? I felt like I was on some crazed roller coaster ride. I do not want to ever lose my husband, but an eventual divorce was suddenly no longer ridiculous. If I continued to behave this way, it could happen, not right away, because he is easygoing and tolerant, but maybe some day.

I wanted to tell you that the one thing about this site that has helped me more than anything is reading, and remembering, the posts. When I’m having a bad day, the words of everyone will sometimes echo in my head and I’ll feel almost guided. Before, I was scared and alone. I had no idea about all of the symptoms, how so many things I was experiencing were very normal. Sometimes I felt a moment of craziness, after a particulaly bad dream, or overwhelming hot flashes, or the strange new fatigue, or the negative view of myself, and I’d think, “You’re cracking up; you’re becoming like your mother.”

Then I started reading the Power Surge message boards and I was amazed to learn that many women had bad dreams at night or negative self images, and this was not the end of the road, but rather, a challenge to be dealt with in a positive way. Certainly, reading about other people’s experiences, their thoughts and feelings, has provided me with more moral support than anything else in the world. And this site has given me that.

Thanks again for a great site!!!”

CSugarGrove: “I think menopause is still UNMENTIONABLE, even with friends? If I try to talk about how I’m feeling, the barriers go up and the room clears out. I told a menopausal friend of mine about some nightmares I’d had, then asked her if she had any trouble sleeping or anything. Without looking at me, she said, “You must have eaten something weird for dinner!” Then she walked away. End of conversation. So I’m even more grateful for this site, because we can talk about anything and everything!”

Gemini: “Yep, we certainly can talk about anything and everything, that’s why we’re here, so keep talking ! 😉 “

VikingLady: “Hello…hello…hello…..I found you all once again!

Alice, it has been a long journey for you. Just 9 years ago you began your first meetings in an AOL private room. What amazing work you have accomplished girl! Has it been that long? Sheesh. I continue to battle meno-mania. Just when I think things are settling down, whew! I go into another tail spin. I am on an upsurge at the moment, but I am holding on tight for the next phase! LOL Gotta keep laughing though or my family would committ me:) It was a comfort to see your name once again!”

boni: “It’s been a year now since I first logged on to Power Surge. I had gone thru some rather bumpy times, as most of us all have. I thought I would never survive.

I am happy to say that with all the info that is here, the friends that I have made, I am doing pretty good. I love Pete. He has become one of my top 10 important people. He has gotten me thru that deep valley, it has not been easy but I am almost there.

I thank Dearest again, for suggesting that I get R. I have been on it almost a year, it is part of my daily regimine.

I found out about Natural HRT as my early post state, I was on everything from shots to patches, now BiEst thru  (Pete).

And most of all I was thankful that I was not Crazy, that I had Meno Sisters across the country that shared the horrors of life’s transition. I was not alone. It made it easy to get on and talk about what was going on. It became my “Shrink”.

So 1 year later, life is looking pretty good. You don’t have to feel & look old, your life does not have to stop, you can make it thru… Power Surge is there for you and ” Dearest,” you have done a great job and I want to say “THANK YOU” :)”

onesister: “Dearest,
Thank you so much for this site. I am 45 and started having perimenopause symptoms. There are so many things I wanted to know about and ask “is this normal?’ To find so many women with similar questions and answers is a god send. It can be difficult articulating about physical and emotional issues, here I find women who have had the same experience as myself. I know I will continue to visit the site for all kinds of help for a long time to come. Thank you everyone.
onesister. “

Dearest: “It pleases me so much to know that Power Surge has helped so many women over the years. It’s always wonderful meeting new women who will go down the same path so many of us have and end up so much more enlightened by our open discourse and supportive communcation.

Thanks for all your kind words. I’m so happy you’ve all benefitted from finding Power Surge.


Charmaine: “This place has been my helpmate, my oasis of calm, and my best friend when I didn’t know what was happening to me. Thank you all.”

Cabo: “Having been slammed into menopause a week after an emergency hysterectomy, I felt like my world was spinning and spinning and I couldn’t get on or off.I suffered for almost a year, quietly and to myself until I was led (divinely I swear) to this marvelous, informative helful site-Power-Surge. I will treasure this forever. I am so very thankful for this home. I check everyday to see what is new, what I can contribute to, how a friend is doing and sometimes, I just get the biggest laugh of my day here. It feels better than anything to just laugh for me. I laugh about forgetting things, losing words in the middle of a sentence,trying to lose this 15lb weight gain, that for the life of me just will not move. All this and more are things I accept and didn’t before. I attribute the peacefulness of this to understanding meno and things that go along with it; Thank you Thank you Thank you Dearest, you have been a lifesaver to me and many more. I am laughing now because I don’t think I can ever make a story short only long, hehe! Peace Cabo”

Suseyq: “Dearest: I just wanted to add to comments on this post as to what Power Surge has meant to me. When I first started peeking in last March, I thought I felt pretty good. I was just getting some first real symptoms of meno (had hysterectomy 3-1/2 yrs. ago). Now I guess I’m really in the midst of it, and can’t tell you how much it means to be able to look at the post here and see I am normal. And perhaps it will some day end. I’m really looking forward to reading the transcript eventually of this week’s chat by Elizabeth Ploude. I went to a couple of sites that mentioned her, after seeing the preview to the chat. It should be interesting. I too feel like too many women are having this surgery and Doctor’s really downplay it. So, thank you Dearest for this great place to come to. “

Suzie: “Dearest,
First I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for creating this wonderful, caring and informative web site. I am another one who would have definately thought I was going crazy if I hadn’t found it. I had been admitted to the emergency room 3 years ago with the beginning of perimenepause and have since had some very intense moments. If not for power-surge I couldn’t have kept my sanify. I look forward to checking in every night after work and in the morning too if I have time. I read all the transcripts and have checked all the recommendations. Just listening to other women’s experiences is very comforting and assuring that all of this is somehow “normal.” I had no idea before this that menepause could cause such emotional turmoil. I thought I’d just have a few hot flashes and I’d feel fine! Ha! What a joke! If men only knew half of it! Even the doctors don’t understand it! The best information I have gotton has been from this web site. It has also provided the opportunity for friendship with all of these women who would otherwise never have met! I am very thankful for all of you.

GG: “Dearest,

This sight has made me feel safe to express whatever it is I am feeling. Menopause is a very trying time. I read alot of books and tried to make myself as well informed as I possibly could seeking comfort in knowledge. But the support that you get from the women on this sight walking down the same path with you on a daily basis and expressing such knowledge and compassion is a tremendous help. Sometimes you read something and you think oh man I remember when I went through that and was so scared and now it has passed and I find I really wasn’t alone. The sight is so nicely put together that even someone like me that knows so little about computers feels comfortable. Thank You and Thank You to all the ladies that are willing to share life in it’s ups and downs.

GG “

virgomom: “Thank you ALL for a wonderful sight. How are you doing??? I wouldn’t be sane without this site!! You were so caring and gifted just to figure out to MAKE this place for us!”

TexasLady: “Powersurge Ladies, I thank each and everyone of you with all my heart. I have met so many dear ladies on this site.You have commiserated with me thru hot flashes, insomonia, palps, depression. I could go on and on but you all know! I come to this site when I desperatly need advice ,understanding friends and just reassurance that this menopause WILL end someday. If not soon, then at least someday. But I am grateful not to have to wade thru this unchartered water alone. Bless you Dearest for having created and maintained this site and bless each of you who have made me laugh until I hurt or have given me a good cry when I needed that also! Thank you.”

Texwoman: “Power surge has been wonderful support connecting with other women who understand and are also going through menopause. It’s all too much to take without someone helping you keep your feet on the ground.


rheaJ: “This is a wonderful web site, but I just discovered a new feature. I listened to the audio welcome not too long ago. It is fabulous! The text is so comforting and soothing; as is the voice. It is a very beautiful and musical sounding voice. Is the voice Dearest’s voice? I think the audio welcome is a wonderful feature.”

MaryO: “Yes, Dearest made that a while ago – maybe a couple years ago now.

If you haven’t heard this before, it’s in her bio (along with her picture) at Power Surge Is What Friends Are For! “

LaLadybug45: “Hello Everyone, I have just recently found “Power Surge” and I tell you I consider it a Godsend. I am 57 and still going through this mess. And basically I have been muddeling along for years thinking I was crazy or stupid or whatever. Also thought I had alzheimers, (my Mom did). Now I know that I dont. I realize there’s a good chance that I may get it but I still feel better reading the stuff on the boards about memory. Thanks so much to each and everyone of you Dear Ladies and especially Dearest. I am stll learning my way around here so if I goof up or something, please be patient. Hugs, LaLadybug.”

CSugarGrove: “I agree with you one hundred percent. What I have learned on this website has made such a difference to me that instead of having a miserable life, with all sorts of weird symptoms, not knowing most of it was menopause, to actually being able to have a sense of humor about it all, due only to the fact that I have knowledge. And the only way I got it was from this website. At this point, it really and truly has changed my entire experience. I don’t know if there is any way to thank Dearest for something like this. You just can’t put a value amount on it.

When I first joined, I did a lot of reading: the posts, guest transcripts, informational articles, and so forth. I wasn’t really into menopause fully at that time. Sometimes, some of the posts sounded, well, overdone or exaggerated. I told myself I’d never have such a hard time.

Well, guess what. The symtoms worsened. And suddenly I started logging on to find out about different things. I logged on when I just felt sad or bad. Sometimes, in just reading the posts, I’d be amazed to discover a symptom that I’d had but never attributed to menopause. And I received knowledge and ideas, with a few chuckles about it all.

There is no way to measure the positive impact this website can have. It is truly one of the great “Wonders of the World” for me. A year ago, I would have told myself to “shut up, you’ve lost it, there’s no way anything could be that great.” But now I know it’s true. I’d recommend this website to absolutely any woman who was approaching, or going through, menopause.

Dearest, you can take credit for creating a new generation of women who not only survived menopause, but will do so in a healthy and postive way. We will all come out on the other side improved for the experience. We feel a new openness about it that we can utilize when our daughters start the process. I’m already talking briefly to my 32 year old daughter about my symptoms in an open and honest manner, instead of feeling ashamed and secretive.

Dearest, you’ve changed the world!!”

Cabo: “SugarGrove,
Your words described how I feel so adequately. I don’t know where I would be without Power-Surge. I truly truly mean that. This is such a wonderful place with so many many helpful, kind people. I wish the world were full of Power Surgers! It would be such a better place! Dearest, you can be the President too. Peace Cabo”

GGc0ok: “In my opinion I feel that we are such a lucky generation of meno’s. I believe that women help women now more then ever. We have taken it out of the hush hush world and made it another chapter of our lifes adventure. Its nothing to whisper about, its a normal process, weather it be surgically induced or the natural process. Each of us are so different, we walk in different shoes. Yet we are so much the same. I have learned that through our own experiences that we share with one another that we are able to help another, and be helped ourselves. This is the most honest, most informative site about menopause and all the extended issues that come along with it.

I think that Dearest should be so proud that it was her that was the pioneer for this great big wonderful Power Surge Family. Thank you Dearest, I am so glad to be just a small part of what you’ve created.

GG :)”

valtog: “I don’t know where to start. Well I really have gotten a lot from this sight. Thank You Dearest!! I’m going to be 41 next week and the last few months have been pretty lousy. First my libido dissappeared, then I skipped a period for the first time. Although I have had other symptoms for about 3 years.I can’t keep a thought in my head for more than 10 seconds, the hot flashes are getting worse, I have pimples for the first time since puberty and a lot of headaches, and I am so bitchy I can’t stand to even be around myself:) I have a gyn appt for blood tests and a consultation with a menopause specialist. Untill I came here, I was convinced I would have to take hrt (something I didn’t want to do) but I came here, read some of the books recommended and ordered some R and Vitamins. I am going to give those a few months and see what happens. Now I have some hope that I may not have to take HRT and if I do, I have information about the different kinds that are available.

Again, Thank You!

CSugarGrove: “I wish the world were full of Power Surgers. But when I try to carry the honesty and openness from this website into my daily life, I still get silence from people.”

Slim: “Dearest, Thank you for putting this site together. I havent been here long, but I have learned so much already. There is so much to read, it keeps me busy. I’m reading everything. I have started R, but am going slow with it because it gives me gas. I’ll work my way up slowly…Anyway, Thank you Thank you Thank you all for being here!!!”

MrsUnderstood: “The reputation of Power Surge as the #1 menopause site popped out at me in a very unexpected way last evening. My twenty-something daughter had me check a website about an issue that pertained to her life. While I was at the site I browsed some issues I was interested in. There it was on the side of one of the topics, “Power Surge the #1 menopause site”. Wow!!! There are so many ways a woman can find this wonderful site, it is no surprise women are saying they just found this site every day. Dearest, your hard work of building a good reputation here is evident all over the web. :):):) ~Helen”

sodepressed: “Dearest, I am new to this site but have to tell u what I have been searching so far it is GREAT. I feel like this site will make a new life for me, so much info. I found this site a few days ago, and what a difference it has made in my life! You have done a incredible (JOB). Thank u soooo much. Before I found this site I felt like I was loosing my mind. Did not understand what in the world was happening to me. I have been suffering for sooo long with these night sweats and day sweats not to mention everything else I learned from menopause. And now to know there is a soy bean product called R that can help with this, I feel like I will have a new life. Many many thanks to u.

Thank you sooo much.
God Bless. Cathy”

CathyJ: “Hi everyone,

I found this website about a week ago when I was just at my wits end. And I have to tell u how this site has changed my (LIFE) allready. 🙂 Everysince my hyst back 3 yrs ago I have suffered daily with this menopause. Not sure what was going on in my body and why. Did not have no answers to nothing. but since I have joined this site Oh how my life has changed in just a matter of a week. There is so much info on here and answers to my questions I have to where before I diden’t as I said. Not to mention the wonderfull people I have met here and Dearest to. 🙂 I ordered my R in hopes it would help me with all my menopause sypt and after being on it for 6 days I have to say my night sweats have decreased. I was having them all night long to where now I noticed last night I only had 2 all night. What a relief. Well I just wanted to thank u Dearest for having such a wonderfull site for us women, where we could turn to each outher in our mid life problems.”

feel2young: “Just having found this site today — you have already helped. I’m a nurse by profession so everyone I talk to here at home thinks I should already know the answers. Night sweats doubled by a husband that sleeps warm anyway in a full sized bed, sometimes not so fun, difficult periods ie; cramping and not a lot of flow or not so much cramping and a flow that tells me I should have gotten stock in platex. Anyway, at least now I have someplace to at least know I’m not alone and get answers, how refreshing.”

leanne0721: “This site has been a Godsend to me. We women would never have the support we have without this site. I feel stronger, I feel more able, I feel better than I have in a very long time, and I feel that old bounce in my step that I thought I had lost when all this peri-meno hit. I only wish there was something I could do for power-surge, because power-surge had done so much for me. Thank you.”

debrikkia: “Although I’ve posted my praises for Power Surge on this board before, I must add a little more.

First of all, again I will say that I have gained more information and insight from Power Surge than I could have obtained from all the doctors I’ve seen put together. And, you’ll never find more support from anyone in the medical field that matches that of the “Surgettes.

There is always hope and help here–from the opportunity to “Ask the Experts” personally, to the instant gratification of the “insta chat”–and everything in between. The message boards now cover just about any question a woman (or man) might have on the subject of mid-life issues and menopause.

I have visited hundreds of websites on various subjects, but I have to say that I have never seen one as “complete” and well put together as this one. So comprehensive, yet so easy to navigate. This is the most interactive site I’ve ever seen…….truly a Family of caring individuals that come to know each other as if they were sitting across a table, sharing a cup of coffee.

Dearest followed her heart and a dream, and because of that, many of us have found some answers that have made it possible for us to begin to follow our own dreams again. Thanks, Dearest–and Power Surge.

LiberatingEve: “Dearest,
It has been my intention in the last few weeks to give my respect to you for creating Power Surge and my appreciation to the others who help to manage the site.

I have found that some days this site is my best friend. I can find answers to almost anything concerning menopause.

I have found the entries from some of the other women to be so sincere and honest, I think that is one of the things I enjoy most about it.

My praises to you for this wealth of information and thanks for my opportunity to be a recipient of it.”

MrsUnderstood: “It’s hard to believe that I joined Power Surge a year ago. The number of members has doubled and grows rapidly every day. I certainly never dreamed that I would make friends from so many different states and other countries. That has been a real bonus to reaching this stage in life for me. Like many women have said, I look at my early posts and realize how much I have learned. Yet every day it seems I learn something new. Whenever I think I have seen all the areas, I find there is more information that I haven’t gotten through yet or need to reread. The guest chats have been very interesting for me. Reading the transcripts and information on the guests that have been on Power Surge is an area I can always find something new. Thanks Dearest for all your hard work in putting together and keeping Power Surge going. ~Helen”

MaryO: “Congratulations, Dearest and everyone involved with Power Surge!

The tenth year – that’s so fantastic. I wonder, Dearest, if you’d have known that this would have grown so huge, involving so much of your time (and money?) would you have still done it? Or maybe had Power Surge on a smaller scale.

These days, it’s tough to keep anything going for 10 years. Power Surge is not only going, but going strong – getting bigger and better every year.

Wow! What a wonderful service you have done for women everywhere. I know what a lifesaver Power Surge was to me when I was starting out. I’m sure that others feel the same way, too.

Thanks, again, for being there to help me through this often rough time, and making it all go smoother, easier – and even FUN! Thanks for having the best-ever support system on the web, or anywhere that i know of.

I know you’re probably all tired of the CongaRats, but they have to dance, anyway.”

Gemini: “We never get tired of the CongaRats, and 10 years is well worth celebrating. Well done everyone!”

MrsUnderstood: “Congratulations Dearest, Mary, and everyone who has helped with the successes of Power Surge! Just think in the next decade there will be second generation surgettes coming here for advice and sharing. The Conga-rats are favorites of mine so keep them dancing. ~Helen”

Texwoman: “10 YEARS!! Whooo Hooo!!!!! Happy Birthday. Good things come to those who wait.

To Dearest and all of you who help her:

I see the dedication you have for your work. Personally I’ve received mind, body, and spiritual help here. In this transitional phase of life, yes! you’ve really made a difference.

Hope you can feel this! (((Thank you))).”

Suseyq: “Congratulations, Dearest on 10 Years of Power Surge. Your hard work is greatly appreciated.”

HippieHeron: “Congratulations Dearest!

GGc0ok: “YEAHHHHHHH YAHOOOOOOOO HIP HIP HOOOOORAY, CONGRATUALTIONS!!! Wanted to add my excitement, my congrats, and my thank you’s. To the Power Pioneer (Dearest), to all her elves in the work shop. I have benefited so much from this site. You must be so proud to have accomplished such a Huge Wealth of information for us to soak in. Believe me I love to soak!!

I wish you all good health in the future, much happiness and continued success with our wonderful spa that we soak in.

Thank you, hugs and love to all

IreneCrites: “Congratulations Dearest and all the women of Power Surge. Mary what would a Congratulatory party be without the Congo -Rats? I love them.

Power surge and Dearest have been a part of my life since 1995 and I don’t know what I would do without all of you. Dearest…..there are no words of thanks that can say what I feel for you personally…you know that my friend. Mary you are the best. Cinda…our chat protocol lady. LOL And to all of the many women I have met here at PS, thanks to Dearest,…..a big thank you.

Again Congratulations Dearest for a most amazing website.”

AND THANK YOU SO MUCH DEAREST- For what I consider to be one of the best things in my life, this wonderful place you have made and nurtured. This Power Surge has helpled so many people, it is so clear to see. It is amazing to see how many woman have passed through this stage and still are so very active here. That is such an indication of what this means to them. To us, we gain from them wisdom, compassion and humor. When I first arrived here, believe me I felt like my best gift which was laughter was so very gone. I felt like every creative bone I had in my body up to that point was whisked away and I never knew where it went or why. Only, through here (which I swear I was divinely led) did I recognize why and acceptance and understanding to all this. Oh, and by the way early on someone suggested that I should just watch funny movies on a weekend. Something so simple and guess what it began to “do the trick” Laughter is back. So, what can I say to you Alice, that could ever show my gratefulness? And to all the great moderators, like you mentioned. I am so thankful to all of you. You are the Best girls. How proud you should all feel that you help so many people, so freely. One of the greatest gifts of Love I think is Service. You have the market cornered. Anyway Peace to you all forever and ever. Cabo (Carol) “

Arlean: “Happy Anniversary Power Surge. Thanks so much Dearest, for the hard work you have done here. Also to the others that help you good job. Also to all the ladies that come here, and Continue to share your feelings but also your support, as well.”

Slim: “HAPPY ANNIVERSARY POWER SURGE!!! My second home. I look forward to getting up every morning and coming here. The one thing I have learned the most here is that I’m not different and wierd. There are actually other people that feel the same way I feel. Congratulations Dearest on a job well done. I will be here for ever. Thanks everyone!!!

Oh by the way.. Love the music!!”

And Happy Birthday, Power Surge!!!!!!!! “

Roxiebear: “CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

This is a wonderful place and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for all that you are doing. It is a real pleasure to come here and feel better.”


Dearest thank you and all that work with you on Power Surge you are the greatest. I am so glad that i found this site. You have all kept me going and i will always be apart of this wonderful place. I have found comfort,careing wonderful people here and tremendous amout of support and help here. My appreciation for all you have done here could never be put into words. This is the best site ever!!!!


finola: “HAPPY…HAPPY ANNIVERSARY POWER SURGE!! What a difference you’ve made in all our lives. A wonderful place to share and care. Thank you so much!!”

JRS: “What an awesome accomplishment!!

Dearest, Thanks again to you and the whole PS team. You have helped so many of us see how “normal” we really are. The peace of mind that brings is truly a first step to getting through this phase of our lives. The wonderful ladies that come here have made a great difference in how I’ve handled life this past year. I can’t imagine how alone I would have felt without all of you. Many, many thanks and congratulations!”

rheaJ: “Happy Birthday, Power-Surge! Thank you, Dearest, for providing this haven of support, comfort and information. You deserve lots of hugs and a moment to put your feet up and bask in your achievement. This must have been a true labor of love because it shows in the work you do. I wish you continued sucees here at Power-Surge and in all your endeavors.

Thanks to MaryO, Irene Crites and all the moderators for their efforts here. The support here is incredible.

I wouldn’t go so far to say that this is the best web site, but I would say it is definitely in the “Top 1”!!!

Kudos and bouquets to you all!”


chriscarol: “Congratulations on the 10th anniversary of “Power Surge.” You’ve made a wonderful contribution to womenkind!!!”

Marney: “What a great community this is! TEN YEARS. Wow!! If I was Dearest I would feel so good about the contribution I was making to the world. And can you imagine if our mothers had something like this to help them through those rough years? I can remember how she suffered…alone…and of course I could never understand her moods, which are now my moods. I still don’t understand them, but I come to these message boards and read, read, read and it makes me feel better. There is some good in this world after all, isn’t there?”

Jimi: “Power Surge has become my comfort corner as well. I feel very grateful to Dearest for creating this wonderful place. It’s been a life saver for me. I have had many a good chat and many a good whinge and there is usually someone willing to listen to my troubles and I to theres. I have been talked through anxiety attacks, states of depression and laughed till I have cried as well. I hope I have helped some of you also. Just wanted to say Thank you everyone for being so compassionate and caring.”

fyneart: “Wow, maybe I am NOT losing my mind!

Thank you thank you Power-Surge. Sincere gratitude goes out to you. After reading the boards and hunting around your site I realized that I am indeed going through perimenopause.

I thought I was losing my mind or something to that effect. I am 39, two weeks away from 40, and I am astounded to realize that menopause at my age is quite possible. I get hot flashes (sometimes every 30 min!), cry at the drop of a hat, wake up throughout the night, recently started getting headaches, and um, well, how do i say it… drying up.

It all makes sense now. Thank you for your support and just being here!

shereede: “Power Surge has given me the gift to connect with other women friends that understand. I cherish this site. I still have it bookmarked after 4 computers and look to it everyday.

I still have a bad day now and then, but not like before. I have coping skills that wise women of power surge have taught me. I read all the transcripts and learn something new every week. I hope all my friends good health and happiness.
Fondly, Sheree “

Cabo: “Dear Dearest,
Thanking you profusely cannot be enough. I like everyone else here, don’t know what I would have done if I had not stumbled onto this site. As I say I think I was divinely led here, truly! When I look back at my early posts I can see what state my frame of mind was in. I feel so much better, and so much more knowledgeable, and feel like I am connected to a group of friends who all understand each other. I could go on and on. When I think that it is only you, 1 person doing all this I am boggled. I know you have wonderful ladies on board who help you. I’ve said it once and again, You are a gift. I thank you Alice and Peace. Carol “

Dearest’s Bio Page   3 comments

I just posted this on the message board in response to “A Dearest Post I Treasure“.

I just listened to again, and reread the words.

Dearest was such a special person.  When I first learned that she had died, I went around the website collecting things like the bio page.  I couldn’t save it with the sound for some reason, so I played it and recorded it with my phone so I could listen to her talking whenever I wanted.

That page has some cleanup to do.  The header is a bit off.  I’ll get to it – sometime.

But go and read the words with your speakers turned up.

You’ll be glad you did!


Posted October 11, 2013 by MaryO in In Memory, Message Boards

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